It's all about expectations...

"Nope, I have no expectations from you at all."
After some time, "Why is it you never.... " and here comes the list...

The problem with people is we have expectations from others including ourselves. Because we know that life is short, we try to achieve as many things as we possible could.

We got expectations from our love ones, from our friends, from our bosses and including ourselves. Everyone is expecting your utmost attention because they expect you to deliver what you have committed. There is only 24 hours a day, minus the hours of sleep, the daily commitments we have to do, we probably only have 1-2 hours of "extra" time we can use to do what we wanted. Sometimes it can be too overwhelming that causes misunderstanding.

When expectations are not met, people get frustrated and causing stress. It will form a negative ripple effect. When anger get better ahead of us, we just say out the hurtful words, which we didn't realise it. Sometimes it could be too late to salvage the situation.

I have learnt a special lesson recently. I realised that it is important to control our emotions esp our anger and be objective. It's difficult to do it because we might be too involved in the disagreement.

We just got so worked up esp. when we have been accused of things that we didn't do. We could have calmed ourselves down and thinking through, what could be done to change the situation. During the fight, no one feels good about it and everyone tried to be "right" in an argument. After the fight, we regretted words that we shouldn't have said it at all.

Communication works both ways. Talk it through with our expectations in an amicably way is essential. Most of the time, we failed to listen is as good as failed to communicate.

It's always about managing our expectations with other people's expectations.