What is Salsa?
Salsa is a sexy, energetic and fun partner dance. Unlike some partner dances, it is a very sociable dance - you don't need to have a regular partner. In fact, it is common for salsaros to dance with people they have never met before. That's part of the fun of dancing Salsa.
With it's sociable nature, Salsa has become highly popular, all around the world. Today, you can easily find Salsa clubs wherever you go; in Asia, North and South America, and Europe.
History of Salsa
Salsa is not easily defined. Who invented salsa? The Cubans, Puerto Ricans? Salsa is a distillation of many Latin and Afro-Caribbean dances. Each played a large part in its evolution.
Salsa is similar to Mambo in that both have a pattern of six steps danced over eight counts of music. The dances share many of the same moves. In Salsa, turns have become an important feature, so the overall look and feel are quite different form those of Mambo. Mambo moves generally forward and backward, whereas, Salsa has more of a side to side feel.
Feeling towards Salsa
Some of them called it romance dance. The male dancer has to lead the female dancer. In order to have a natural dance, both must feel comfortable and connect with each other through their body language.
When I first try out Salsa dance, I didn't really like it. It's kind of strange having to dance with a male stranger. I need to stand really close to him so that he is able to lead me with the dance. After few round of rotating of male partners, I'm getting slightly more used to it. But I'm still having an uncomfortable feeling, esp you got to look at your dance partner and dance with the flow.
It's kind of uneasy for me to dance with the guys. Some guys were too tall and some were too short. Having to stand so close with a stranger, just feel so weird. Certain steps I have to lean on my partner and he will have to support me. There was turning involved too! Of course, everyone is so new to the dance, so its inevitable that everyone esp the ladies, are feeling uncomfortable.
Fortunately, the dance instructors from two left feet are very jovial and friendly. They not only explain in great details and they care enough to explain what are the mistakes we did wrong.
Overall, I think I will continue to try until either I overcome it or I will stop going to such classes anymore...
11 April, 2008
10 April, 2008
语言
昨天看到我的朋友写中文博客，也激发了我写中文博客的兴趣。
哇， 我好久没有写华文字了。感觉好陌生喔。。。仿佛这是初学者的作品。别管了写了再说哈哈，有错别字请多多包含 ：）
最近我的同事们都心血来潮学起日语来了。大家都开始讲起日语，感觉在日本公司上班哈哈。。。我好久没说日语了，好多话都忘记，只记得单字的 Hiragana 和 Katakana。用法全部还给老师了。
当初学日语是因为单纯的想要听和看得懂日剧，可是慢慢的我也开始爱上它的日语歌和它的独特的文化。我一直向往去日本走一趟，但因为经济情况不允许，所以一直都没有去。或许在这1到2年内，该好好的计划一下去日本的行程。
想当年我的华语是顶夸夸的，英语是差到掺不忍睹。现在朋友都说我的英语进步了，我的华语能力反而退步了。好多字都忘了这么写！我花了花了阵阵一个钟头写，以前我哪需要这么长的时间写完。
咳。。。我说阿，语言这种东西，需要天天看，天天说，天天写，才会慢慢进步。。。 这也是一种必要的谋生技能。
哇， 我好久没有写华文字了。感觉好陌生喔。。。仿佛这是初学者的作品。别管了写了再说哈哈，有错别字请多多包含 ：）
最近我的同事们都心血来潮学起日语来了。大家都开始讲起日语，感觉在日本公司上班哈哈。。。我好久没说日语了，好多话都忘记，只记得单字的 Hiragana 和 Katakana。用法全部还给老师了。
当初学日语是因为单纯的想要听和看得懂日剧，可是慢慢的我也开始爱上它的日语歌和它的独特的文化。我一直向往去日本走一趟，但因为经济情况不允许，所以一直都没有去。或许在这1到2年内，该好好的计划一下去日本的行程。
想当年我的华语是顶夸夸的，英语是差到掺不忍睹。现在朋友都说我的英语进步了，我的华语能力反而退步了。好多字都忘了这么写！我花了花了阵阵一个钟头写，以前我哪需要这么长的时间写完。
咳。。。我说阿，语言这种东西，需要天天看，天天说，天天写，才会慢慢进步。。。 这也是一种必要的谋生技能。
09 April, 2008
Life goes on...
For a friend who has just lost a friend...
I thought you were my friend, someone I can depend on.
You coated your words with honey and I almost believed in you.
One fine day, we went through the test of our friendship.
It didn't last and it not only failed but failing terribly...
You made me realised, it's time to wake up from my dream.
And I knew I was too naive just like what you have always said.
I was hurt but I will not blame you for what you have done.
I couldn't care less now for I have just lost a friend...
Thank you for making me realise my mistake.
In 3 words, I can sum up everything I've learnt; Life goes on...
I thought you were my friend, someone I can depend on.
You coated your words with honey and I almost believed in you.
One fine day, we went through the test of our friendship.
It didn't last and it not only failed but failing terribly...
You made me realised, it's time to wake up from my dream.
And I knew I was too naive just like what you have always said.
I was hurt but I will not blame you for what you have done.
I couldn't care less now for I have just lost a friend...
Thank you for making me realise my mistake.
In 3 words, I can sum up everything I've learnt; Life goes on...
08 April, 2008
How photography came about
The word "Photography" is derived from the Greek words for light and writing. We owe the name "Photography" to Sir John Herschel, who first used the word in 1839.
Beginnings of Photography
For centuries, these were just ideas on capturing the image until an Iraqi scientist developed something called the camera obscura (darkroom) sometime in the 11th Century. Even then, the camera did not actually record images; They simply projected them onto another surface. Artists used them to help them draw more accurately.
Artists used camera obscura to help them in drawing.
Photography as we know it today began in the late 1830s in France when Joseph Nicéphore Niépce used a portable camera obscura.
The camera obscura was a popular sketching instrument in the 18th century. A lens in the draw tube and a mirror at 45 degrees to the horizontal focussed the image onto a ground glass screen on the top of the box. A piece of paper was put onto the screen and the image was copied directly.
This is the first recorded image that did not fade quickly. However, not all people welcomed this exciting invention; At that time some artists saw in photography a threat to their livelihood and some even prophesied that painting would cease to exist.
There are two distinct scientific processes that combine to make photography possible.
1) The first of these processes was optical. The Camera Obscura (dark room) had been in existence for at least four hundred years. There is a drawing, dated 1519, of a Camera Obscura by Leonardo da Vinci; about this same period its use as an aid to drawing was being advocated.
2) The second process was chemical. For hundreds of years before photography was invented, people had been aware, for example, that some colours are bleached in the sun, but they had made little distinction between heat, air and light.
Tent camera obscura, 19th century.
In the 19th and early 20th centuries is seems that the pier at every seaside resort in the United Kingdom had a camera obscura. The camera obscura on the Jetty at Margate England was listed in this location by 1898. The sign on the side reads "Beautiful Effects Caused by Reflection" "Charge Two Pence". The card on the left is one of four postcards of Margate in our collection. It was mailed in 1904.
Even till now in 2008, almost every household at least has a camera. Photography has not been able to replace Painters / Artists. It is just another form of art that can be expressed by the artists / designers.
Beginnings of Photography
For centuries, these were just ideas on capturing the image until an Iraqi scientist developed something called the camera obscura (darkroom) sometime in the 11th Century. Even then, the camera did not actually record images; They simply projected them onto another surface. Artists used them to help them draw more accurately.
Artists used camera obscura to help them in drawing.
Photography as we know it today began in the late 1830s in France when Joseph Nicéphore Niépce used a portable camera obscura.
The camera obscura was a popular sketching instrument in the 18th century. A lens in the draw tube and a mirror at 45 degrees to the horizontal focussed the image onto a ground glass screen on the top of the box. A piece of paper was put onto the screen and the image was copied directly.
This is the first recorded image that did not fade quickly. However, not all people welcomed this exciting invention; At that time some artists saw in photography a threat to their livelihood and some even prophesied that painting would cease to exist.
There are two distinct scientific processes that combine to make photography possible.
1) The first of these processes was optical. The Camera Obscura (dark room) had been in existence for at least four hundred years. There is a drawing, dated 1519, of a Camera Obscura by Leonardo da Vinci; about this same period its use as an aid to drawing was being advocated.
2) The second process was chemical. For hundreds of years before photography was invented, people had been aware, for example, that some colours are bleached in the sun, but they had made little distinction between heat, air and light.
Tent camera obscura, 19th century.
In the 19th and early 20th centuries is seems that the pier at every seaside resort in the United Kingdom had a camera obscura. The camera obscura on the Jetty at Margate England was listed in this location by 1898. The sign on the side reads "Beautiful Effects Caused by Reflection" "Charge Two Pence". The card on the left is one of four postcards of Margate in our collection. It was mailed in 1904.
Even till now in 2008, almost every household at least has a camera. Photography has not been able to replace Painters / Artists. It is just another form of art that can be expressed by the artists / designers.
07 April, 2008
Misunderstandings
A friend of mine told me that she has just lost a friend. She has know this friend for sometime already. One day, he asked her that if she has spread rumors about him. She was dumbfolded because she never did it and why would she wants to do that?
Anyway, this friend of her chose to believe his long relationship friend words and "evidence" that he saw. No matter how much my friend tried to explain herself, this friend of hers refused to listen.
She wanted to confront that guy friend of his. But his friend refused to tell her who the "bad stabber" was because he has concluded that she's has done it. My friend is sad that he choose to believe what he thinks is the "truth".
After some time, her friend starts talking to her because he finally sees the light. However, the feeling is no longer the same. The trust is broken. No doubt the light is clear, the amount of time to fix back their friendship is still an unknown.
What is the truth? The truth is the side you choose to believe. Sometimes even real truth reveals, is not important anymore because it doesn't serve any purpose anymore...
Anyway, this friend of her chose to believe his long relationship friend words and "evidence" that he saw. No matter how much my friend tried to explain herself, this friend of hers refused to listen.
She wanted to confront that guy friend of his. But his friend refused to tell her who the "bad stabber" was because he has concluded that she's has done it. My friend is sad that he choose to believe what he thinks is the "truth".
After some time, her friend starts talking to her because he finally sees the light. However, the feeling is no longer the same. The trust is broken. No doubt the light is clear, the amount of time to fix back their friendship is still an unknown.
What is the truth? The truth is the side you choose to believe. Sometimes even real truth reveals, is not important anymore because it doesn't serve any purpose anymore...
06 April, 2008
It's all about expectations...
"Nope, I have no expectations from you at all."
After some time, "Why is it you never.... " and here comes the list...
The problem with people is we have expectations from others including ourselves. Because we know that life is short, we try to achieve as many things as we possible could.
We got expectations from our love ones, from our friends, from our bosses and including ourselves. Everyone is expecting your utmost attention because they expect you to deliver what you have committed. There is only 24 hours a day, minus the hours of sleep, the daily commitments we have to do, we probably only have 1-2 hours of "extra" time we can use to do what we wanted. Sometimes it can be too overwhelming that causes misunderstanding.
When expectations are not met, people get frustrated and causing stress. It will form a negative ripple effect. When anger get better ahead of us, we just say out the hurtful words, which we didn't realise it. Sometimes it could be too late to salvage the situation.
I have learnt a special lesson recently. I realised that it is important to control our emotions esp our anger and be objective. It's difficult to do it because we might be too involved in the disagreement.
We just got so worked up esp. when we have been accused of things that we didn't do. We could have calmed ourselves down and thinking through, what could be done to change the situation. During the fight, no one feels good about it and everyone tried to be "right" in an argument. After the fight, we regretted words that we shouldn't have said it at all.
Communication works both ways. Talk it through with our expectations in an amicably way is essential. Most of the time, we failed to listen is as good as failed to communicate.
It's always about managing our expectations with other people's expectations.
After some time, "Why is it you never.... " and here comes the list...
The problem with people is we have expectations from others including ourselves. Because we know that life is short, we try to achieve as many things as we possible could.
We got expectations from our love ones, from our friends, from our bosses and including ourselves. Everyone is expecting your utmost attention because they expect you to deliver what you have committed. There is only 24 hours a day, minus the hours of sleep, the daily commitments we have to do, we probably only have 1-2 hours of "extra" time we can use to do what we wanted. Sometimes it can be too overwhelming that causes misunderstanding.
When expectations are not met, people get frustrated and causing stress. It will form a negative ripple effect. When anger get better ahead of us, we just say out the hurtful words, which we didn't realise it. Sometimes it could be too late to salvage the situation.
I have learnt a special lesson recently. I realised that it is important to control our emotions esp our anger and be objective. It's difficult to do it because we might be too involved in the disagreement.
We just got so worked up esp. when we have been accused of things that we didn't do. We could have calmed ourselves down and thinking through, what could be done to change the situation. During the fight, no one feels good about it and everyone tried to be "right" in an argument. After the fight, we regretted words that we shouldn't have said it at all.
Communication works both ways. Talk it through with our expectations in an amicably way is essential. Most of the time, we failed to listen is as good as failed to communicate.
It's always about managing our expectations with other people's expectations.
03 April, 2008
Friendships
Someone who I always think of him as my friend, turns out to be someone who I don't even know him at all. Why is it so hard to develop true friendship? I think it is partly because the nature of friendship is changing as society changes. People get together could be the fact of fearing a pervasive sense of loneliness, social isolation and lack of meaningful connections between people. True and enduring friendships seem more like a rarity these days, not something we can take for granted.
People come to me not knowing how or where to find and form friendships. Plus, when there is a break or misunderstanding in a friendship, people tend to be more distress over that than a fight with a spouse. Maybe we have forgotten how to be friends. Maybe we're too self-focused and self-centered, worried about whether our needs are being met, rather than focusing on what we have to give to a friend.
Friendship is often idealized and romanticized. Quoted by Ralph Waldo Emerson: "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
Certainly friendships that nurture and support are to be cherished, but are friendships always about making each other feel good? Are they just "mutual admiration societies?" In some cases friendships are also about challenging each other to grow and develop. The intimacy that goes with good friendships can be
enlivening, but the challenges of friendships can also be stressful. When we have intimacy, as in "into-me-see," we want the best for and from our friends.
We want them to reach their full potential, realize their dreams and overcome their limitations. Quoted Henry Ward Beecher, who said, "It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship."
What do psychologists have to contribute to the understanding and development of friendships? Psychologists study the relationship between social support and the ability to manage stress. In short, friends help you to deal with stress better. Further, the quality of your friendship circle is a rough predictor of the state of your mental health. Friends are like money in the bank or a garden - something you invest in and tend and that you to draw upon in times of need. A well developed friendship circle suggests a well-rounded life and the ability to weather life's challenges better.
Life is full of pressures and challenges. Without true and enduring friendships, it will be much tougher to pull through our life's challenges ahead of us.
People come to me not knowing how or where to find and form friendships. Plus, when there is a break or misunderstanding in a friendship, people tend to be more distress over that than a fight with a spouse. Maybe we have forgotten how to be friends. Maybe we're too self-focused and self-centered, worried about whether our needs are being met, rather than focusing on what we have to give to a friend.
Friendship is often idealized and romanticized. Quoted by Ralph Waldo Emerson: "The only way to have a friend is to be one."
Certainly friendships that nurture and support are to be cherished, but are friendships always about making each other feel good? Are they just "mutual admiration societies?" In some cases friendships are also about challenging each other to grow and develop. The intimacy that goes with good friendships can be
enlivening, but the challenges of friendships can also be stressful. When we have intimacy, as in "into-me-see," we want the best for and from our friends.
We want them to reach their full potential, realize their dreams and overcome their limitations. Quoted Henry Ward Beecher, who said, "It is one of the severest tests of friendship to tell your friend his faults. So to love a man that you cannot bear to see a stain upon him, and to speak painful truth through loving words, that is friendship."
What do psychologists have to contribute to the understanding and development of friendships? Psychologists study the relationship between social support and the ability to manage stress. In short, friends help you to deal with stress better. Further, the quality of your friendship circle is a rough predictor of the state of your mental health. Friends are like money in the bank or a garden - something you invest in and tend and that you to draw upon in times of need. A well developed friendship circle suggests a well-rounded life and the ability to weather life's challenges better.
Life is full of pressures and challenges. Without true and enduring friendships, it will be much tougher to pull through our life's challenges ahead of us.
28 March, 2008
5 guys you should never date
Saw this article in one of the romance consultant websites. After reading through, I think it seems like there is no suitable guy that i can date already hahaha :)
1. Married men
It’s obvious why dating married men is a bad idea. Falling in love with a guy who already belongs to someone else entails countless painful sacrifices on your part: You cannot have him all for yourself, you have to keep your affair a secret, you can’t be seen together in public, and he can only call you when he can find the time away from his family and friends. Not to mention all the potential stigmas that could plague you if your relationship is exposed.
And you have to recognize the real possibility that after all that you've gone through for him, he’s not even contemplating on leaving his wife. "Although some people do find the love of their lives whilst they are still with someone else, a good rule of thumb is that if someone doesn’t leave their marriage within six months, they probably never will," says Helmanis.
The only married man worth considering? He’s the one who tells you to leave him alone and he’ll find you if/when he leaves his marriage, Helmanis adds.
2. Dominator
This guy takes an interest in everything you do, from the way you dress, who's in your phone list, the way you arrange your room to how your friends treat you.
At first it may feel wonderful to have this attentive man who genuinely cares about what's going on in your life, "but pretty soon he is telling you that you fold the laundry wrong (although he never does any) and that your best friend is boring (he doesn't like anyone else to have any influence)," warns Helmanis.
A control freak can be extremely charming in a new relationship, but once he feels secure he starts to become pushy and controlling. And unless he can control the other person, he fears he will lose her or that his own life will become chaotic. His tyrannical behavior soon makes life miserable for his partner.
"Being a control freak is not about love, although he’ll tell you it is: It’s about power," says Helmanis, "Leave, before your confidence does."
3. Broken Heart
He's the guy who seems so sensitive and caring when you first met and tells you the heart-wrenching story of his past broken relationship. And soon you’ll find out that he's still nursing a broken heart from the relationship he had with someone ten years ago. "Basically, you’re transitional woman in a nurse's uniform," says Helmanis.
Face it, if he lives in a haze of self-indulgent gloom and loves the drama of his own misery, you’ll never get through no matter how much time you spend trying to mend his broken heart. So give up and get going.
4. Smoothie
He's suave, sports designer suits, has a glitzy social life, owns an expensive apartment and zips around town in a flashy convertible. He loves lavishing women with lots of attention, and has you feeling like a princess with his constant showers of gifts, flowers and exotic dinners.
Problem is, you may not be the only chick in this Casanova's life. Men like that are very likely to be a misogynist, warns Helmanis, "He can't see past the skirt to one special individual."
5. The Drain
You'll recognize a Drain because this guy constantly saps you – emotionally, financially and/or physically. He hates his life, can't stop complaining about his job, blames everyone else for his own laziness, and essentially relies on you to bolster his poor self-image.
"Other Drains include men who always seem to be borrowing money because they have maxed out their credit cards, who lose their temper over nothing and use you as an emotional punchbag," says Helmanis. Guys like that are really nothing more than selfish, spoiled whiners who don’t understand the concept of responsibility or self-respect. Get them out of your life and lock the doors.
1. Married men
It’s obvious why dating married men is a bad idea. Falling in love with a guy who already belongs to someone else entails countless painful sacrifices on your part: You cannot have him all for yourself, you have to keep your affair a secret, you can’t be seen together in public, and he can only call you when he can find the time away from his family and friends. Not to mention all the potential stigmas that could plague you if your relationship is exposed.
And you have to recognize the real possibility that after all that you've gone through for him, he’s not even contemplating on leaving his wife. "Although some people do find the love of their lives whilst they are still with someone else, a good rule of thumb is that if someone doesn’t leave their marriage within six months, they probably never will," says Helmanis.
The only married man worth considering? He’s the one who tells you to leave him alone and he’ll find you if/when he leaves his marriage, Helmanis adds.
2. Dominator
This guy takes an interest in everything you do, from the way you dress, who's in your phone list, the way you arrange your room to how your friends treat you.
At first it may feel wonderful to have this attentive man who genuinely cares about what's going on in your life, "but pretty soon he is telling you that you fold the laundry wrong (although he never does any) and that your best friend is boring (he doesn't like anyone else to have any influence)," warns Helmanis.
A control freak can be extremely charming in a new relationship, but once he feels secure he starts to become pushy and controlling. And unless he can control the other person, he fears he will lose her or that his own life will become chaotic. His tyrannical behavior soon makes life miserable for his partner.
"Being a control freak is not about love, although he’ll tell you it is: It’s about power," says Helmanis, "Leave, before your confidence does."
3. Broken Heart
He's the guy who seems so sensitive and caring when you first met and tells you the heart-wrenching story of his past broken relationship. And soon you’ll find out that he's still nursing a broken heart from the relationship he had with someone ten years ago. "Basically, you’re transitional woman in a nurse's uniform," says Helmanis.
Face it, if he lives in a haze of self-indulgent gloom and loves the drama of his own misery, you’ll never get through no matter how much time you spend trying to mend his broken heart. So give up and get going.
4. Smoothie
He's suave, sports designer suits, has a glitzy social life, owns an expensive apartment and zips around town in a flashy convertible. He loves lavishing women with lots of attention, and has you feeling like a princess with his constant showers of gifts, flowers and exotic dinners.
Problem is, you may not be the only chick in this Casanova's life. Men like that are very likely to be a misogynist, warns Helmanis, "He can't see past the skirt to one special individual."
5. The Drain
You'll recognize a Drain because this guy constantly saps you – emotionally, financially and/or physically. He hates his life, can't stop complaining about his job, blames everyone else for his own laziness, and essentially relies on you to bolster his poor self-image.
"Other Drains include men who always seem to be borrowing money because they have maxed out their credit cards, who lose their temper over nothing and use you as an emotional punchbag," says Helmanis. Guys like that are really nothing more than selfish, spoiled whiners who don’t understand the concept of responsibility or self-respect. Get them out of your life and lock the doors.
27 March, 2008
Genting Trip
It is an inspiring Genting trip for me at this time round. Took quite a few nice food photography shot. Rethink how to make food more appealing and mouth watering. I'm quite grateful that my family were quite patience with me when their stomach were growling like mad.
There were quite a few changes in Genting. First World has expanded to one more towers and Chin Swee Cave Temple has completed the 2nd stage of development. Last time I can't understand why first world has such a ugly painting on the hotel. Now I know why. That is because they are using "first world" logo as the theme. However, I still think that it is very unsightly. Perhaps the negative impact creates a positive outcome because it has become a "colorful" landmark that no one can forget it.
This is 2nd time I went to Chin Swee Cave Temple. What catches my attention is this statue. Genting Group founder Tan Sri Dato’ Seri Lim Goh Tong. I like the wording craved on the rock. It says "God gives us thinking, speaking and action abilities, if we can apply these capabilities into good use, nothing is impossible." True enough, he has proven himself that he has done it.
He was born in 1918 and passed away last year in 2007. He was a great man who creates his own legacy. "There is a Chinese saying "胆大心细" it means that to be BOLD and MEDICULOUS. Once a decision is made with a sound reasoning, the rest is hard work, determination and perseverance is seen through till the fruitful success." A person with so much passion in life has become someone different from the rest.
For more images, pls click here.
There were quite a few changes in Genting. First World has expanded to one more towers and Chin Swee Cave Temple has completed the 2nd stage of development. Last time I can't understand why first world has such a ugly painting on the hotel. Now I know why. That is because they are using "first world" logo as the theme. However, I still think that it is very unsightly. Perhaps the negative impact creates a positive outcome because it has become a "colorful" landmark that no one can forget it.
This is 2nd time I went to Chin Swee Cave Temple. What catches my attention is this statue. Genting Group founder Tan Sri Dato’ Seri Lim Goh Tong. I like the wording craved on the rock. It says "God gives us thinking, speaking and action abilities, if we can apply these capabilities into good use, nothing is impossible." True enough, he has proven himself that he has done it.
He was born in 1918 and passed away last year in 2007. He was a great man who creates his own legacy. "There is a Chinese saying "胆大心细" it means that to be BOLD and MEDICULOUS. Once a decision is made with a sound reasoning, the rest is hard work, determination and perseverance is seen through till the fruitful success." A person with so much passion in life has become someone different from the rest.
For more images, pls click here.
25 March, 2008
Personality Twin Or Polar Opposite?
Love Match: Your Twin
Like you, your partner is adventurous and passionate. When it comes to making the first move he is wild and fearless, though his impulsiveness may bring regret to some actions.
Love Match: Your Opposite
Your partner is methodical, sensible and down-to-earth. He is tactful, honest, kind and dependable – which makes him a warm-hearted person and a wonderful listener. He is also very caring toward his family.
Love Match Personality Advice
There's no hard and fast rule on whether you'll be happiest paired with your personality twin or polar opposite.
Having a soul-mate (splitting image of your personality) may seem favourable for mutual participation in enjoyable activities, but it can also be a hazard in some ways: Two introverts may become reclusive, two dreamers may never get a grip on the realities of life, and so on.
On the other hand, an opposites-attract relationship can evolve into a complete, complementary partnership, but it can also mean a lack of common-ground interests and hobbies.
You be the judge and follow your heart.
Thinking out loud
I have hang out with both type of guys. I guess I still prefer the Opposite Personality. We are complementing each other and that will make the relationship complete. There might be strong differences between us but I believe if we put our hearts together to work things out eventually...
Like you, your partner is adventurous and passionate. When it comes to making the first move he is wild and fearless, though his impulsiveness may bring regret to some actions.
Love Match: Your Opposite
Your partner is methodical, sensible and down-to-earth. He is tactful, honest, kind and dependable – which makes him a warm-hearted person and a wonderful listener. He is also very caring toward his family.
Love Match Personality Advice
There's no hard and fast rule on whether you'll be happiest paired with your personality twin or polar opposite.
Having a soul-mate (splitting image of your personality) may seem favourable for mutual participation in enjoyable activities, but it can also be a hazard in some ways: Two introverts may become reclusive, two dreamers may never get a grip on the realities of life, and so on.
On the other hand, an opposites-attract relationship can evolve into a complete, complementary partnership, but it can also mean a lack of common-ground interests and hobbies.
You be the judge and follow your heart.
Thinking out loud
I have hang out with both type of guys. I guess I still prefer the Opposite Personality. We are complementing each other and that will make the relationship complete. There might be strong differences between us but I believe if we put our hearts together to work things out eventually...
23 March, 2008
Light Graffiti
This was painted with light in the studio... Two separate shoots with green and red gels... The photographer stand in a completely dark room... put his camera on self timer and he paints. The tree and the Heart both took around 30 shoots each... Then he put them together in Photoshop... Try it... it makes a terrific result!
When Kel send me this image, I was amazed with it. I think it really takes alot of efforts and skills to put everything together! I find it so cool!!! It's a great combination between photography and drawing :)
17 March, 2008
What spurs you to move on?
My friend threw me a tough question for me to reflect: At your darkest hour of your life, what spurs you on to go on and continue with your life?
Without thinking, I replied immediately, "Of course, my family and friends."
She continues: "What happens at your darkest hour, your family and friends are not even around with you, what you will do?"
After much thought, I replied: "When I'm at the most depressed moment, I heard my inner voice telling me, I just need to endure awhile longer and I will see the light and I did."
She probes further: "What happens if you can’t even hear your inner voice?"
After thinking through the night, I think it is still my own willpower and my life philosophy that I have built over the years. When I was young, I always felt insecure, I wanted people to reassure me that I'm good and I'm doing the right thing. The truth is I'm not happy doing the right thing that the "wise men" said. I'm too scared and afraid to tell them that, "Hey, this is not how i feel".
When I look back, so what next? I'm old enough to judge and decide for my own life. There are certain things I know that I need to do, and I want to fulfil. I can't living under people's expectations all the time. I'm just too tired.
I think no one can be with us all the time, sometimes I really got to push myself much harder than before, get on my feet and move towards to my own goals closer. For some people, religion might be able to help to gain their self confidence and self esteem back after being defeated badly. A ray of hope is believed to be seen when times are really, really bad. But then I believed that we will be able to stand back on our feet to move on.
I watched a movie that ever said this: The sad thing about life is you can never return where you came from but the happy thing about life is there is no need for you to do that. Every good and bad experiences is part of you and that makes you as a person of who you really are.
Just follow your heart... where your heart brings you to find your true happiness...
*This is my last blog i'm going to write for this week as i'm going away for my short holiday to genting for a few days... :)
Without thinking, I replied immediately, "Of course, my family and friends."
She continues: "What happens at your darkest hour, your family and friends are not even around with you, what you will do?"
After much thought, I replied: "When I'm at the most depressed moment, I heard my inner voice telling me, I just need to endure awhile longer and I will see the light and I did."
She probes further: "What happens if you can’t even hear your inner voice?"
After thinking through the night, I think it is still my own willpower and my life philosophy that I have built over the years. When I was young, I always felt insecure, I wanted people to reassure me that I'm good and I'm doing the right thing. The truth is I'm not happy doing the right thing that the "wise men" said. I'm too scared and afraid to tell them that, "Hey, this is not how i feel".
When I look back, so what next? I'm old enough to judge and decide for my own life. There are certain things I know that I need to do, and I want to fulfil. I can't living under people's expectations all the time. I'm just too tired.
I think no one can be with us all the time, sometimes I really got to push myself much harder than before, get on my feet and move towards to my own goals closer. For some people, religion might be able to help to gain their self confidence and self esteem back after being defeated badly. A ray of hope is believed to be seen when times are really, really bad. But then I believed that we will be able to stand back on our feet to move on.
I watched a movie that ever said this: The sad thing about life is you can never return where you came from but the happy thing about life is there is no need for you to do that. Every good and bad experiences is part of you and that makes you as a person of who you really are.
Just follow your heart... where your heart brings you to find your true happiness...
*This is my last blog i'm going to write for this week as i'm going away for my short holiday to genting for a few days... :)
16 March, 2008
Perspectives
Today I learnt how to draw 1 point perspectives. It's fun and interesting. Now I have better understanding of perspectives. Different eye-level will create different perspectives. I swear that NO drawing instructor has ever taught me about such a basic thing until today! Perhaps they expect us to know, as it is quite common sense thing. After looking at the good works from some of my classmates with some drawing backgrounds, I think it is very important to know where light comes from and how the shadows and highlights will makes the object more realistic.
The big problem with me is that I don't like observe things. I feel that it's waste of time. No wonder I always find that my still life drawings always seems so weird to me because I have drawing in wrong porportion and perspectives. It really makes me kind of demoralise and doesn't want to try anymore. Perhaps that's why I all along, never had any intention to making it better.
The drawing teacher shared with us as a beginner in drawing, we tends to be very forceful with our sketches and lots of unclear lines. The artwork becomes hard and unrealistic. When we builds up our confidence in drawing, we tends to draw much more at ease and the sketches are much lighter now. The artwork becomes interesting and lively.
What touches my heart is, she said,"Don't be afraid to make mistakes. The more mistakes you made, the better you will become."
I have wasted enough time to give myself too many excuses. I have decided to do that anymore. There is no such thing as cannot draw. It's a matter of whether I want to put in the time and effort to horne my skills.
The big problem with me is that I don't like observe things. I feel that it's waste of time. No wonder I always find that my still life drawings always seems so weird to me because I have drawing in wrong porportion and perspectives. It really makes me kind of demoralise and doesn't want to try anymore. Perhaps that's why I all along, never had any intention to making it better.
The drawing teacher shared with us as a beginner in drawing, we tends to be very forceful with our sketches and lots of unclear lines. The artwork becomes hard and unrealistic. When we builds up our confidence in drawing, we tends to draw much more at ease and the sketches are much lighter now. The artwork becomes interesting and lively.
What touches my heart is, she said,"Don't be afraid to make mistakes. The more mistakes you made, the better you will become."
I have wasted enough time to give myself too many excuses. I have decided to do that anymore. There is no such thing as cannot draw. It's a matter of whether I want to put in the time and effort to horne my skills.
15 March, 2008
Back to the basics
This morning, I jumped out of my bed. "It's 9.30am already! Oh no, I was late again!"
It has been a long, long time since I overselpt. Quite angry with myself because I need to attend my first day of design workshop by 9.45am. I had no choice but to take a cab down. I waited for 10 mins there's no cab at all... usually I have no problem flagging the cab. I had no choice but to go to the nearest taxi stand.
When I get into the cab, I was complaining to the cab driver about can't find any cabs on the road. Guess what he says? He told me that they cannot anyhow align or pick up passenger from the road anymore. I was so pissed, if I can walk to the taxi stand, i might as well take bus or mrt. Why must i still take a cab? Taking cab is for the convenience sake and not to pay extra money to get pissed off by the government stupid rules...
Anyway, when I reached there, the class has started for 30 mins already. Thinking to myself that I will not let this stupid incident affect my mood. I really enjoyed the class today. It's really back to the basic - Still life drawing!
I hated still life drawing, thanks to my pri and sec school teachers. They gave me F grades for most of the works I have done. Till now, I'm still very puzzled is that why did I choose to be a designer because designer needs to draw quite well to a certain extend. Perhaps the challenge of finding how to do it right is my motivation as being a designer. OR god choose the tough job for me hahaha :P
But this time round is very different from what I have learnt, instead of using pencils, we are using charcoal. First time doing it. It's kind of fun because I feel like I'm turning myself into a curious kid. Back to learn the basic drawing techniques. There are 3 types of drawing techniques: the pure contour, the blind contour and the cross contour.
The pure contour : Drawing basic outline to separate the object and the space. Learning how to manipulate of the lines.
The blind contour : By looking at the object and draw without looking at the paper. This is to train to observe the object.
The cross contour : Drawing in circular motion to form the object. This is to train to draw the object in proportions.
It may seem easy, however it requires alot of concentration, observation and drawing skills to draw out something decent. The most difficult contour is the blind contour. Without constantly practising, you wont be able to master it. Learn how to draw without looking at the paper. I can feel the misery for the blind when they lost their sight. It's really a pain and helpless when you can't see at all.
First day workshop is just experiment of using charcoal. A really good charcoal artwork must have a spectrum of darkest black and the whitest white in it. Just like photography, must take note of the shadows and highlights. It's a black and white painting. You really got to get dirty to do some work, esp colouring the shading and highlights for the objects. I got myself so dirty with my hands just like a kid playing in the muddy sand. Hahaha and I love it!
It has been a long, long time since I overselpt. Quite angry with myself because I need to attend my first day of design workshop by 9.45am. I had no choice but to take a cab down. I waited for 10 mins there's no cab at all... usually I have no problem flagging the cab. I had no choice but to go to the nearest taxi stand.
When I get into the cab, I was complaining to the cab driver about can't find any cabs on the road. Guess what he says? He told me that they cannot anyhow align or pick up passenger from the road anymore. I was so pissed, if I can walk to the taxi stand, i might as well take bus or mrt. Why must i still take a cab? Taking cab is for the convenience sake and not to pay extra money to get pissed off by the government stupid rules...
Anyway, when I reached there, the class has started for 30 mins already. Thinking to myself that I will not let this stupid incident affect my mood. I really enjoyed the class today. It's really back to the basic - Still life drawing!
I hated still life drawing, thanks to my pri and sec school teachers. They gave me F grades for most of the works I have done. Till now, I'm still very puzzled is that why did I choose to be a designer because designer needs to draw quite well to a certain extend. Perhaps the challenge of finding how to do it right is my motivation as being a designer. OR god choose the tough job for me hahaha :P
But this time round is very different from what I have learnt, instead of using pencils, we are using charcoal. First time doing it. It's kind of fun because I feel like I'm turning myself into a curious kid. Back to learn the basic drawing techniques. There are 3 types of drawing techniques: the pure contour, the blind contour and the cross contour.
The pure contour : Drawing basic outline to separate the object and the space. Learning how to manipulate of the lines.
The blind contour : By looking at the object and draw without looking at the paper. This is to train to observe the object.
The cross contour : Drawing in circular motion to form the object. This is to train to draw the object in proportions.
It may seem easy, however it requires alot of concentration, observation and drawing skills to draw out something decent. The most difficult contour is the blind contour. Without constantly practising, you wont be able to master it. Learn how to draw without looking at the paper. I can feel the misery for the blind when they lost their sight. It's really a pain and helpless when you can't see at all.
First day workshop is just experiment of using charcoal. A really good charcoal artwork must have a spectrum of darkest black and the whitest white in it. Just like photography, must take note of the shadows and highlights. It's a black and white painting. You really got to get dirty to do some work, esp colouring the shading and highlights for the objects. I got myself so dirty with my hands just like a kid playing in the muddy sand. Hahaha and I love it!
14 March, 2008
Searching for Partner Ad
Position available - Mr Chow’s Girlfriend
Job Description
She must be faithful, loyal & understanding Girl next door, must not be taller than him.
Key Responsibilities:
Responsible for balance of life for this BGR, Boy-Girl-Relationship
Independent and able to take care of herself.
Confident & understanding of my work.
Able to lend me her ears when I need 1 pair to listen.
Identifies who is Mark Chow, What type of Person is him? Develops and communicates with him.
Must NOT be materialistic and able to double as a Financial Controller
(As I am a big Spender)
Aninmal Lover, must not smoke.
Education Requirements:
You MUST Not be a BIMBO, Slut, Bitch or related field. = Meaning; If you put Expected Salary; YES. Then its ok. Also; Just give me a credit card. You may apply at : join@sugardaddy.money.sg
Critical Skills and Experience:
Minimum of 2-3 years of experience in Relationship.
(State reason for Breaking up).
Advanced skills in market analysis
(Which Market have the best food and cheapest?),
pricing strategy and negotiation (at wet market)
Knowledge of basic need of a relationship, attention, sharing, caring.
Supportive and attentive and who will help him develop his self-confidence.
Easygoing and relaxed, happy to be going with the flow.
Proficiency in housekeeping
Successful candidate will be love!
More Information on Mr Chow;
Natural generosity, bigheartedness, and good humor wins many friends. Have an inner joy and buoyancy which enables me to encourage and bring hope to others. Seem to attract more than your share of the good things in life. Comfort and ease come naturally to you.
A very social creature & especially enjoy being with creative, playful, spontaneous people. Theatre, dance, music, and other expressive arts have a strong appeal for.
Interested candidate can leave him a msg at http://lifestyle.ns40.sg/blog/index.php/mark
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How interesting to meet young entrepreneur chap like Mr Chow. Successful as he is now today owing an international model agency.
I fit all the above citerias that he mention. However, he is unable to attract me with his flamboyant career. Simply because the way he talks seems to be blowing his own trumplet. You can say he is full of "charm" if you like to hear praises.
"Get someone who is not a model, she will feel inferior. Get someone as a model, she also feel insecure!" quoted by Mr Chow.
Reason being his working partners are all models. How could a woman find a sense of security in him when beautiful women are sticking around with him all the time!
His future girfriend either must be generous enough to accept his career or doesn't love him at all.
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I wrote him my 2 cents worth of comments in his blog:
Dear Mr Chow,
I just happened to pop by your site. I hope below comments will not be too difficult for you to digest.
I couldn't help myself for not replying this "searching for girlfriend" ad. I have been going through the criterias that you mentioned in this ad. Basically, you need a good woman. Yes, I fit the bill totally. However, I will not apply for this position.
Have you ever wonder why you are unable to find your "Dream Girl" for all these while? Perhaps in your heart, you have already found the answer to your own question.
"Get one who is not a model, She feel inferior. Get one as a model, she also feel insecure!"
Based on the above remarks, I have written you off already. You may be wondering that why am I judging you this way. But I'm not judging at all because I do not know you at all. I write this because I feel that you are unrealistic in searching for your life partner.
If a woman cannot find a sense of security in him, how is she able to stick with him for the better or the worse? Most likely, she will run away with your money with another man. I'm not referring about your exciting career; I'm talking about your love commitment. If you are looking for fun in a relationship only, I think every girl fits your bill. If you are finding true love, it takes a lot of your time, effort and commitment to love and cherish her in your lifetime.
Ask yourself, are you willing and be able to do that?
Job Description
She must be faithful, loyal & understanding Girl next door, must not be taller than him.
Key Responsibilities:
(As I am a big Spender)
Education Requirements:
You MUST Not be a BIMBO, Slut, Bitch or related field. = Meaning; If you put Expected Salary; YES. Then its ok. Also; Just give me a credit card. You may apply at : join@sugardaddy.money.sg
Critical Skills and Experience:
(State reason for Breaking up).
(Which Market have the best food and cheapest?),
pricing strategy and negotiation (at wet market)
Successful candidate will be love!
More Information on Mr Chow;
Natural generosity, bigheartedness, and good humor wins many friends. Have an inner joy and buoyancy which enables me to encourage and bring hope to others. Seem to attract more than your share of the good things in life. Comfort and ease come naturally to you.
A very social creature & especially enjoy being with creative, playful, spontaneous people. Theatre, dance, music, and other expressive arts have a strong appeal for.
Interested candidate can leave him a msg at http://lifestyle.ns40.sg/blog/index.php/mark
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How interesting to meet young entrepreneur chap like Mr Chow. Successful as he is now today owing an international model agency.
I fit all the above citerias that he mention. However, he is unable to attract me with his flamboyant career. Simply because the way he talks seems to be blowing his own trumplet. You can say he is full of "charm" if you like to hear praises.
"Get someone who is not a model, she will feel inferior. Get someone as a model, she also feel insecure!" quoted by Mr Chow.
Reason being his working partners are all models. How could a woman find a sense of security in him when beautiful women are sticking around with him all the time!
His future girfriend either must be generous enough to accept his career or doesn't love him at all.
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I wrote him my 2 cents worth of comments in his blog:
Dear Mr Chow,
I just happened to pop by your site. I hope below comments will not be too difficult for you to digest.
I couldn't help myself for not replying this "searching for girlfriend" ad. I have been going through the criterias that you mentioned in this ad. Basically, you need a good woman. Yes, I fit the bill totally. However, I will not apply for this position.
Have you ever wonder why you are unable to find your "Dream Girl" for all these while? Perhaps in your heart, you have already found the answer to your own question.
"Get one who is not a model, She feel inferior. Get one as a model, she also feel insecure!"
Based on the above remarks, I have written you off already. You may be wondering that why am I judging you this way. But I'm not judging at all because I do not know you at all. I write this because I feel that you are unrealistic in searching for your life partner.
If a woman cannot find a sense of security in him, how is she able to stick with him for the better or the worse? Most likely, she will run away with your money with another man. I'm not referring about your exciting career; I'm talking about your love commitment. If you are looking for fun in a relationship only, I think every girl fits your bill. If you are finding true love, it takes a lot of your time, effort and commitment to love and cherish her in your lifetime.
Ask yourself, are you willing and be able to do that?
13 March, 2008
Living with a Zombie
Nur Shahidah and Yuan Ping managed to fight their way through into Area Contest for their club. However, Yuan Ping is not confident about her own script so she asked me to vet through the script that she wrote. She wrote in plain English. After reading it, I could feel her sadness, her anguish, her resentment. I rewrote her entire script based on my feelings and thoughts.
I felt honored when she asked me for help. Since the day I met her, she protrays to be an independent girl. I almost cried with her when she shared her life story with us. Despite her incapability to walk, she never gives in and remains positive towards life. She fought bravely just like any one of us.
I wished her all the best in this Area Contest.
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Living with a Zombie
- Specially dedicated to Yuan Ping's father
311... 350... and 418... Probably you are wondering what these numbers are. These 3 numbers are the block numbers that I have stayed in Woodlands. For the past 22 years, I unable to stand my two little feet on the ground because I was born to be a handicap. I have a wonderful mum who painstakingly brought us up with my 2 brothers and me. Perhaps I may seem different from my brothers but my mum loved us just like we are her precious angels. Those were the happy little days.
My happy days were short-lived. A happy family is destroyed by a man. This man, whom I called him, Father. He never takes good care of us. He never fulfilled the duty of a husband and a father. Gambling dens seems to be his home and our home has turned into his hotel. Horse races, 4D, Toto or anything that he could bet, he will gamble away.
There is a Chinese saying 9 out of 10 times in gambling, you will lose. True enough, either he came back as a "dead" person or he will disappear for a few months until we had paid back the heavy debts that he has left behind. Since young, the whole family has been constantly living in fear. Everyday is like a living hell. Fearing those ruthless loan sharks will come knocking at our door everyday, looking for my father. Despite we had told them, we didn't know where my father has gone to. The loan sharks will just come back to haunt us everyday, just to make sure we pay them back every single cent.
One day, this man finally has the gut to come back just to ask my mum for more money for investing a bigger flat. My mum refused to give in. Unfortunately, she didn't manage to stop him. The huge sum of money ended up in the gambling den and left with another heavier debt. He went into hiding again! The Singapore loan sharks are quite resourceful and manage to track us down. My mum has left with no choice but had to move us from the 1st flat to the 2nd flat and finally the 3rd flat, just to pay for father's astronomic debts.
Just by paying these debts, we had no place to stay. A helpful social worker from Asian Women’s Welfare Association (AWWA) helped us to look for a place and I became one of their clients. I moved from Canossa Convent Children’s Home and Red Cross Home and back to Children’s Home for few months, while the Sister from the Home helped my family to look for a flat to stay.
On the day, when we were moving to our new house, MacPherson Estate, my father appeared out of the blue. He was begging for our forgiveness again. Despite how unwillingly we are to live with this man, my soft hearted mum gave in. The fear continues to haunt us until few years later, he sent to jail because he embezzled with the company’s money. He was in there for few months and after releasing, he went back to jail again.
My mum has ever thought of divorcing with him, but having a thought of the relationship in the past, she forgives and forgives and forgives. One time after another. For this final time, my mum really given up hope on this man and in 2006, my mum filed for a divorce with my father because she cannot forgive him for the hurt that he has created in the family. In 2007, my parents were officially divorced. Although he still lives with us till today, he is just a living zombie.
If you asked me if I will ever forgive this man. I just can't bring myself to forgive this man who brought us so much hurt and betrayal. No, not at this moment. But perhaps one day... I will...
I felt honored when she asked me for help. Since the day I met her, she protrays to be an independent girl. I almost cried with her when she shared her life story with us. Despite her incapability to walk, she never gives in and remains positive towards life. She fought bravely just like any one of us.
I wished her all the best in this Area Contest.
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Living with a Zombie
- Specially dedicated to Yuan Ping's father
311... 350... and 418... Probably you are wondering what these numbers are. These 3 numbers are the block numbers that I have stayed in Woodlands. For the past 22 years, I unable to stand my two little feet on the ground because I was born to be a handicap. I have a wonderful mum who painstakingly brought us up with my 2 brothers and me. Perhaps I may seem different from my brothers but my mum loved us just like we are her precious angels. Those were the happy little days.
My happy days were short-lived. A happy family is destroyed by a man. This man, whom I called him, Father. He never takes good care of us. He never fulfilled the duty of a husband and a father. Gambling dens seems to be his home and our home has turned into his hotel. Horse races, 4D, Toto or anything that he could bet, he will gamble away.
There is a Chinese saying 9 out of 10 times in gambling, you will lose. True enough, either he came back as a "dead" person or he will disappear for a few months until we had paid back the heavy debts that he has left behind. Since young, the whole family has been constantly living in fear. Everyday is like a living hell. Fearing those ruthless loan sharks will come knocking at our door everyday, looking for my father. Despite we had told them, we didn't know where my father has gone to. The loan sharks will just come back to haunt us everyday, just to make sure we pay them back every single cent.
One day, this man finally has the gut to come back just to ask my mum for more money for investing a bigger flat. My mum refused to give in. Unfortunately, she didn't manage to stop him. The huge sum of money ended up in the gambling den and left with another heavier debt. He went into hiding again! The Singapore loan sharks are quite resourceful and manage to track us down. My mum has left with no choice but had to move us from the 1st flat to the 2nd flat and finally the 3rd flat, just to pay for father's astronomic debts.
Just by paying these debts, we had no place to stay. A helpful social worker from Asian Women’s Welfare Association (AWWA) helped us to look for a place and I became one of their clients. I moved from Canossa Convent Children’s Home and Red Cross Home and back to Children’s Home for few months, while the Sister from the Home helped my family to look for a flat to stay.
On the day, when we were moving to our new house, MacPherson Estate, my father appeared out of the blue. He was begging for our forgiveness again. Despite how unwillingly we are to live with this man, my soft hearted mum gave in. The fear continues to haunt us until few years later, he sent to jail because he embezzled with the company’s money. He was in there for few months and after releasing, he went back to jail again.
My mum has ever thought of divorcing with him, but having a thought of the relationship in the past, she forgives and forgives and forgives. One time after another. For this final time, my mum really given up hope on this man and in 2006, my mum filed for a divorce with my father because she cannot forgive him for the hurt that he has created in the family. In 2007, my parents were officially divorced. Although he still lives with us till today, he is just a living zombie.
If you asked me if I will ever forgive this man. I just can't bring myself to forgive this man who brought us so much hurt and betrayal. No, not at this moment. But perhaps one day... I will...
12 March, 2008
Connections
I never believe in the connections, today I just can't help but feeling that Singapore is so small!
KC: I have a job for you, my friend need the website to be completed within 2 weeks.
Qiqi: Sure, please send over the specs to me.
Flipping through my schedule, I realised that I unable to do this job as it clashes with my freelance job, my workshops and my short Genting holidays. No choice, I had to turn down. Even though, I can't do this job, I rather pass this job to my other friends who might be interested. I thought of my junior, RH. He's just setup his own design agency. So I call him and he's willing to work on it. I sent the specs over to him.
After 10 mins later, he called me back.
RH: Hey, I got the job.
Qiqi (Still in the state of blurriness): What job are you talking about?
RH: Your freelance job that you sent over is my client. He just told me that he engaged me.
Qiqi: OMG, I cannot believe it! The world is so small...
RH: Yah...
Qiqi: Congrats manz... Happy for you! This job is definitely meant to be yours.
I can't help but feeling freelancing industry is so small. Everyone seems to know one another and helping each other in getting jobs. Friends introducing business to one another and be connected. Before you know it, you could have knowing everyone... in such an big industry...
Those popular designer names probably once you mention it, the whole industry would have know. So if you had a good reputation, most likely people will seek you for help if they have any job opportunities...
Design industry works slightly different from any other corporate industry. You have to get your own connections, resources and people. People just job hopping around almost for every 2 years or some even half a year and your pay check just jump a few times more... That's how design industry works.
Talented designers tend to have weird temper of their own. Can I say designers have artistic temper? I have that temper too if my client really pissed me off. Most of the time, talented designers sack their lousy bosses. Because these bosses never think of keeping these people and never bothers to take good care of them. Thus their company reputation is at stake. Clients can always find other better agencies / freelancers and will never come back again. These lousy bosses are always at the losing end while the pay checks of these talented designers are clicking away...
KC: I have a job for you, my friend need the website to be completed within 2 weeks.
Qiqi: Sure, please send over the specs to me.
Flipping through my schedule, I realised that I unable to do this job as it clashes with my freelance job, my workshops and my short Genting holidays. No choice, I had to turn down. Even though, I can't do this job, I rather pass this job to my other friends who might be interested. I thought of my junior, RH. He's just setup his own design agency. So I call him and he's willing to work on it. I sent the specs over to him.
After 10 mins later, he called me back.
RH: Hey, I got the job.
Qiqi (Still in the state of blurriness): What job are you talking about?
RH: Your freelance job that you sent over is my client. He just told me that he engaged me.
Qiqi: OMG, I cannot believe it! The world is so small...
RH: Yah...
Qiqi: Congrats manz... Happy for you! This job is definitely meant to be yours.
I can't help but feeling freelancing industry is so small. Everyone seems to know one another and helping each other in getting jobs. Friends introducing business to one another and be connected. Before you know it, you could have knowing everyone... in such an big industry...
Those popular designer names probably once you mention it, the whole industry would have know. So if you had a good reputation, most likely people will seek you for help if they have any job opportunities...
Design industry works slightly different from any other corporate industry. You have to get your own connections, resources and people. People just job hopping around almost for every 2 years or some even half a year and your pay check just jump a few times more... That's how design industry works.
Talented designers tend to have weird temper of their own. Can I say designers have artistic temper? I have that temper too if my client really pissed me off. Most of the time, talented designers sack their lousy bosses. Because these bosses never think of keeping these people and never bothers to take good care of them. Thus their company reputation is at stake. Clients can always find other better agencies / freelancers and will never come back again. These lousy bosses are always at the losing end while the pay checks of these talented designers are clicking away...
11 March, 2008
The Leap Years
"A saint once decreed, that a man must agree,
to a woman's proposal today.
Give me a sign,
For I'm hidden from your eyes,
Whether to meet me at 8,
At the same place you sit,
And fulfill the tradition of February 29th."
This is a lighthearted romance 1st english local production movie. The problem is Qi Yu Wu doesn't seem to blend in this English movie as he doesn't speak fluently. Seems like everyone is complaining about his "ang mo".
Of course, there are certain parts of the movie that are quite sweet and romantic. Since Li-Ann and Jeremy could only meet every 4 years, I felt that if they could have more emotions and connections between them.
What I like about this movie is that they use romantic "quotes" to evoke the audience emotions such as "If you are not too long, I will wait for you all my life." - Oscar Wilde
The film-makers have missed out minor details such as Li-Ann and Jeremy do not age in appearance. Another thing is where's the mole under Jeremy's eye after so many years?
I think they have oversell this move. Overall, I felt that not a very touching movie but it's quite watchable one.
About The Leap Years
MediaCorp Raintree Pictures, one of Asia’s leading film companies and Ochre Pictures, Singapore’s award-winning production company are producing Singapore’s first English love story entitled, THE LEAP YEARS.
Thai heartthrob – Ananda Everingham, last seen in Shutter (2004) co-starred in this romantic love story with Singapore girl next door - Li Lin. Based on a novella by well-acclaimed writer, Dr Catherine Lim, the story talks about a young Singaporean girl having chance upon her special someone on 29th February. She decides to base her intuition on an Irish leap year tradition that no man will refuse any request of a lady and invites him out for a date. Together, they embark on a romantic journey that spans over 12 years, meeting only thrice in 12 years, on the leap year. The delightful draw being the leap yearly meet-ups is sure to entice the special someone out there in all of us.
Together with a colourful cast of gorgeous ladies and men – Joan Chen, Ananda Everingham, Li Lin, Qi Yu Wu, Vernetta Lopez, Nadya Hutagulung – THE LEAP YEARS aims to capture the fascinating sensibilities and the essence of life in contemporary Singapore.
More about Leap Year Traditions
Leap Year has been the traditional time that women can propose marriage. In many of today's cultures, it is okay for a woman to propose marriage to a man. Society doesn't look down on such women. However, that hasn't always been the case. When the rules of courtship were stricter in the past, women were only allowed to pop the question on one day every four years. That day was February 29th.
St. Bridget's Complaint
It is believed this tradition was started in 5th century Ireland when St. Bridget complained to St. Patrick about women having to wait for so long for a man to propose. According to legend, St. Patrick said the yearning females could propose on this one day in February during the leap year.
10 March, 2008
Reconnect with Eleanor
It has been a long time since I chat with my dear friend of mine, Eleanor. 6 long years, we never chat, never call each other, never even sms. Our connection just cut off just like that... I decided to give her a call last night and we chatted for 4 hours non stop, topics are endless, there were no uncomfortable pauses, despite both of hp batteries went flat, we just continued our conversation on the phone on and on...
She was one of my very close primary school classmates. I used to go to Eleanor's place to eat, play, sleep and study. Her house has become like my second home. Her grandma treated me like her own grand daughter. Always worried that I don't have enough to eat. That explains my size right now haha... Despite of our differences in character, I just like to hang out with Eleanor. Perhaps opposite character attracts.
Beside Adeline, she used to be one of the confidants when we were young. Three of us just hit off very well because I find that their characters are very real, they speak out their minds with no hidden agenda. They always say me being too soft, too nice, will get bullied. When I looked back, perhaps they did try to bully me but I was too nice to them. Eventually, they decided not to bully me anymore. haha :) Anyway, I always tell them that even if people want to take advantage of me, so be it.
Perhaps they are just being too straightforward and playful, we often gets ourselves into minor troubles in school. My results were quite good, being a good student in my teachers' eyes, they always tell me not to hang out with these two people. The teachers always say to me when I hang out with bad students, you will become bad as well. But I couldn't care less, I just feel comfortable hanging out with them.
The teaching style in the past is stereotype, so are those good students. Without adding some spice in our school life, it can be too boring for us! We drew pictures on our desks and textbooks, went early to the school just to copy good students homework so that we have more time to play, skipping classes when we dislike that teacher, we even broke one of glass windows in the classroom.
I remembered one vivid incident that how we caused our form teacher lost her ranking in a competition. Every year, we have "clean and green competition" for the classrooms. During our Primary 4, our form teacher was quite anxious about this competition. She took her own personal time just to decorate the classroom. One of the teachers, out of courtesy, asked us whether we want those unwanted pots of plants from her classroom. Thinking that it’s a kind gesture from this teacher, we brought those unwanted pots of plants back into our classroom, without arranging them nicely. Just happened that afternoon day was the judging day for the competition, we made our first glory for our classroom, first ranking from the bottom. Our form teacher became a laughing stock, she nearly hit the roof. No matter how hard we tried to explain ourselves, she just made us stood out of the classroom for 3 hours. Haizzz...
But instead of feeling a sense of guilty, I think that was fun. After all, these naughty stuffs that we did in the past, will always be our little childhood memories.
Do you know how difficult it is, to get yourself into trouble in such a strict discipline school, unless you want to be the "unwelcome" hero. To me, we are just being playful and should not be labeled as rebellious.
Ever since we left school, due to our different lifestyle and hectic working life, we no longer that close and keep in contact. She always has a place in my heart. Last night, I just have the urge to give a call to this old friend, to find out how is my dear friend doing in her life and so I did! I felt that everything has changed between us but only our friendship remains strong and bonded :)
She was one of my very close primary school classmates. I used to go to Eleanor's place to eat, play, sleep and study. Her house has become like my second home. Her grandma treated me like her own grand daughter. Always worried that I don't have enough to eat. That explains my size right now haha... Despite of our differences in character, I just like to hang out with Eleanor. Perhaps opposite character attracts.
Beside Adeline, she used to be one of the confidants when we were young. Three of us just hit off very well because I find that their characters are very real, they speak out their minds with no hidden agenda. They always say me being too soft, too nice, will get bullied. When I looked back, perhaps they did try to bully me but I was too nice to them. Eventually, they decided not to bully me anymore. haha :) Anyway, I always tell them that even if people want to take advantage of me, so be it.
Perhaps they are just being too straightforward and playful, we often gets ourselves into minor troubles in school. My results were quite good, being a good student in my teachers' eyes, they always tell me not to hang out with these two people. The teachers always say to me when I hang out with bad students, you will become bad as well. But I couldn't care less, I just feel comfortable hanging out with them.
The teaching style in the past is stereotype, so are those good students. Without adding some spice in our school life, it can be too boring for us! We drew pictures on our desks and textbooks, went early to the school just to copy good students homework so that we have more time to play, skipping classes when we dislike that teacher, we even broke one of glass windows in the classroom.
I remembered one vivid incident that how we caused our form teacher lost her ranking in a competition. Every year, we have "clean and green competition" for the classrooms. During our Primary 4, our form teacher was quite anxious about this competition. She took her own personal time just to decorate the classroom. One of the teachers, out of courtesy, asked us whether we want those unwanted pots of plants from her classroom. Thinking that it’s a kind gesture from this teacher, we brought those unwanted pots of plants back into our classroom, without arranging them nicely. Just happened that afternoon day was the judging day for the competition, we made our first glory for our classroom, first ranking from the bottom. Our form teacher became a laughing stock, she nearly hit the roof. No matter how hard we tried to explain ourselves, she just made us stood out of the classroom for 3 hours. Haizzz...
But instead of feeling a sense of guilty, I think that was fun. After all, these naughty stuffs that we did in the past, will always be our little childhood memories.
Do you know how difficult it is, to get yourself into trouble in such a strict discipline school, unless you want to be the "unwelcome" hero. To me, we are just being playful and should not be labeled as rebellious.
Ever since we left school, due to our different lifestyle and hectic working life, we no longer that close and keep in contact. She always has a place in my heart. Last night, I just have the urge to give a call to this old friend, to find out how is my dear friend doing in her life and so I did! I felt that everything has changed between us but only our friendship remains strong and bonded :)
07 March, 2008
Sick after IT SHOW
Not feeling well today after went for IT Show last night. That place is so crowded with people that you can hardly walk... Wanted to get a laptop for myself for my work. All the laptops are using Window Vista, last year they still allowed user to use Windows XP but this year they refused and they still said that if I downgraded to Windows XP, my warranty would be void. I think it sounds a bit ridiculous.
All laptop promoters were too eager to sell their laptops to me. One of the Acer sales guys, was super enthusiastic about giving me all the freebies that he can think of, almost irresistible and he almost "threaten" that if I don't sign up with him now. I will not be able to get the freebies. I simply told him that I don’t go for freebies. He was quite shocked with my reply, gave me his namecard and said that all freebies he mention will be given to me once I have decided to buy the laptop from him. After working with marketing people for so many years, I know that Freebies is just one of the marketing tactics in getting the sales...
Anyway, I don't really feel comfortable using Vista since the NEW OS is still so unstable and heard from my IT support friend said he always have to troubleshoot Vista nowadays due to a lot of incapability with the printers and graphics softwares. It looks so much different from Windows XP, I need to get used to the new environment. I don’t want to stick with a laptop that I not comfortable with.
I think I will use an iBook instead because at least Mac, I have used before and it's still considered a much more stabled OS.
Woke up middle of the night feeling stomach bloated and having fever. Went to see doctor today, doctor says I had stomach flu... I guess I have been eating too much oily stuff recently... have to be more cautious about the food I eat and rest more already... Hopes that I get well soon...
All laptop promoters were too eager to sell their laptops to me. One of the Acer sales guys, was super enthusiastic about giving me all the freebies that he can think of, almost irresistible and he almost "threaten" that if I don't sign up with him now. I will not be able to get the freebies. I simply told him that I don’t go for freebies. He was quite shocked with my reply, gave me his namecard and said that all freebies he mention will be given to me once I have decided to buy the laptop from him. After working with marketing people for so many years, I know that Freebies is just one of the marketing tactics in getting the sales...
Anyway, I don't really feel comfortable using Vista since the NEW OS is still so unstable and heard from my IT support friend said he always have to troubleshoot Vista nowadays due to a lot of incapability with the printers and graphics softwares. It looks so much different from Windows XP, I need to get used to the new environment. I don’t want to stick with a laptop that I not comfortable with.
I think I will use an iBook instead because at least Mac, I have used before and it's still considered a much more stabled OS.
Woke up middle of the night feeling stomach bloated and having fever. Went to see doctor today, doctor says I had stomach flu... I guess I have been eating too much oily stuff recently... have to be more cautious about the food I eat and rest more already... Hopes that I get well soon...
06 March, 2008
Useless man
I always try to rush home to watch Buzzing Cashier every Tues, I'm quite surprised that the show started 15mins before the usual time, 8pm. They have showed the progress business in the previous Lasak shop owner.
A customer complained that his Lasak sucks and will not go back to his shop again. Of course, the TV media is curious why there is such complain, so they went down to his shop. To their surprise, he still uses back his old recipe of Lasak just because the new ingredient for the Lasak have used finished for the day.
The hosts kind of telling him off that he shouldn't use back his old recipe. Using back this old recipe will spoil the shop’s reputation. Instead of feeling remorse, he scolded them back and removed all the new signboard and the new pictures of Lasak in his shop.
Last week, this Lasak owner has to learn the new way of cooking Lasak for the famous chef. He has a bad temper, he always lies and his attitude in learning the skill is very bad. He doesn't know how to cook and he still talks as if he's very good at it. And we realised that only his wife is listening and trying her best to learn.
His wife is really 24 super good wife. She needs to work in the clinic in the day and she still needs to prepare all the ingredients during the night. For the past whole month she has been trying and trying cooking the right taste for the new Lasak. Because of this show, she almost fell sick. You can see that she's really very tired already but she still hang it there.
Though his wife keeps finding excuses for this useless man, I really disappointed with him. He has such a good wife and he still doesn't buck up. He still blames others for not giving him chance. The chef has already taught him what he supposed to know. He never even use his heart to learn and instead he heavily depended on his wife.
If he still has a little conscious and call himself a man, he should really reflect what he has done and buck up...
A customer complained that his Lasak sucks and will not go back to his shop again. Of course, the TV media is curious why there is such complain, so they went down to his shop. To their surprise, he still uses back his old recipe of Lasak just because the new ingredient for the Lasak have used finished for the day.
The hosts kind of telling him off that he shouldn't use back his old recipe. Using back this old recipe will spoil the shop’s reputation. Instead of feeling remorse, he scolded them back and removed all the new signboard and the new pictures of Lasak in his shop.
Last week, this Lasak owner has to learn the new way of cooking Lasak for the famous chef. He has a bad temper, he always lies and his attitude in learning the skill is very bad. He doesn't know how to cook and he still talks as if he's very good at it. And we realised that only his wife is listening and trying her best to learn.
His wife is really 24 super good wife. She needs to work in the clinic in the day and she still needs to prepare all the ingredients during the night. For the past whole month she has been trying and trying cooking the right taste for the new Lasak. Because of this show, she almost fell sick. You can see that she's really very tired already but she still hang it there.
Though his wife keeps finding excuses for this useless man, I really disappointed with him. He has such a good wife and he still doesn't buck up. He still blames others for not giving him chance. The chef has already taught him what he supposed to know. He never even use his heart to learn and instead he heavily depended on his wife.
If he still has a little conscious and call himself a man, he should really reflect what he has done and buck up...
05 March, 2008
How to identify Mas Selamat
Everyone of us have "seen" and "read" about "Mas Selamat". The JI militant, a highly dangerous man, who has escaped while in custody. He is walking with a left limp. No one can explained how a person with a limp could get off from a highly secured prison.
He is famous overnight and he is even more famous than our dear prime minister and HK Actor, Edison Chen. Pictures of him were pasted all over Singapore. Flyers, SMS, Emails, Faxes were flying all over as well.
Can't get enough of him? Here comes his latest movie and postcard on how to identify Mas Selamat in disguise.
Engaged almost a thousand of police to track him down. If the police force still could not find him at all. Probably it will be the biggest joke of Singapore Police Force in the history.
He is famous overnight and he is even more famous than our dear prime minister and HK Actor, Edison Chen. Pictures of him were pasted all over Singapore. Flyers, SMS, Emails, Faxes were flying all over as well.
Can't get enough of him? Here comes his latest movie and postcard on how to identify Mas Selamat in disguise.
Engaged almost a thousand of police to track him down. If the police force still could not find him at all. Probably it will be the biggest joke of Singapore Police Force in the history.
04 March, 2008
How Great Love Is...
Have read this story many years back. During that i was pretty much touched by it. Evon forwarded this story to me once again. The feeling is still the same or rather more deeply because i understand it better :)
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Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived:
Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love.
One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all repaired their boats and left. Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help.
Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat.
Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you? "
Richness answered, " No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."
Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, "Vanity, please help me!".
"I can't help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you."
Oh ... Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!" Said sadness.
Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!
Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder.
Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder her name. When they arrived on dry land, the elder went her own way.
Love realizing how much he owed the elder asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered.
"Time?" asked Love.
"But why did Time help me?"
Knowledge smiled with deep Wisdom and answered, "Because only TIME is Capable of understanding how great LOVE is."
So, please use time to understand how great Love is.
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Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived:
Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others including Love.
One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all repaired their boats and left. Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help.
Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat.
Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you? "
Richness answered, " No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."
Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, "Vanity, please help me!".
"I can't help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness, let me go with you."
Oh ... Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!" Said sadness.
Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her!
Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder.
Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder her name. When they arrived on dry land, the elder went her own way.
Love realizing how much he owed the elder asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered.
"Time?" asked Love.
"But why did Time help me?"
Knowledge smiled with deep Wisdom and answered, "Because only TIME is Capable of understanding how great LOVE is."
So, please use time to understand how great Love is.
03 March, 2008
You Reap What You Sow
"You Reap What You Sow" is the table topic for the contest.
I fully agreed with this statement "You Reap What You Sow". In fact, it could be argued that even the most fertile soil throughout the world is barren unless time and effort is used carefully to take seeds and have them properly planted, cultivated and nurtured.
For the big, big dreams you want to achieve, You have to invest a lot of time, talent and effort working with, and helping others to achieve their goals too.
What I meant by helping others... I mean that you have to give before you get and I think it all comes down to your own "attitude".
If you are positive and helpful, and offer encouragement and support to those who need it, it can have an incredible effect around you. Because you are learning with them at the same time.
The opposite is true about being negative and complaining all the time. At the end of the day, you will realise that you have not achieve what you really want. Because you are too focusing on the problems rather than finding the solutions for the problems.
You can make the difference.
You make the decisions.
You take charge.
I fully agreed with this statement "You Reap What You Sow". In fact, it could be argued that even the most fertile soil throughout the world is barren unless time and effort is used carefully to take seeds and have them properly planted, cultivated and nurtured.
For the big, big dreams you want to achieve, You have to invest a lot of time, talent and effort working with, and helping others to achieve their goals too.
What I meant by helping others... I mean that you have to give before you get and I think it all comes down to your own "attitude".
If you are positive and helpful, and offer encouragement and support to those who need it, it can have an incredible effect around you. Because you are learning with them at the same time.
The opposite is true about being negative and complaining all the time. At the end of the day, you will realise that you have not achieve what you really want. Because you are too focusing on the problems rather than finding the solutions for the problems.
You can make the difference.
You make the decisions.
You take charge.
02 March, 2008
The demon within
"This is the speech that I delivered during the club contest."
In a faraway land, not too distant from today, there lived a smart king, King Benignant. He rules his country with wisdom and patience. All beings are living happily as the country prospers under the leadership of King Benignant.
All, except one. The demon, named Choler, the most horrendous creature. Choler is massive in size and stand at a height of 10 feet tall. His skin is dull red in color and it gives out a strange odor. It stinks so much that you can hardly breathe normally when he is around. No one knows where he came from but every being sends shivers down their spine when they see him.
One day, Choler knew King Benignant was not around, stomped right into the palace, causing great destruction. Choler turned over every tables and chairs that were within his sight while he made his way towards the throne at royal audience hall. The guards were so afraid of him that none of them dares to stop him. However, the guards know very well that if they could not stop Choler in time, he will destroy the entire palace. Using their shields and spears, they form a wall of defenses to fight against Choler.
"Stop it, you evil demon! Stop it now!!" shouted the angry guards. But Choler was too strong for them. Each time the guards cursed Choler, he just grows bigger and stronger. Choler finally sat on the throne of King Benignant.
Filled with disgust and anger, the guards shouted at Choler, "You demon, get out off here or else we will rip you apart".
"Ha ha ha, show me what you are capable of," Choler was gloating happily, "You will never be able to come near me. Ha ha ha"
"Charged!" shouted the guards. They attacked Choler with all their strength and might but Choler keeps growing bigger and stronger.
After much confrontation, King Benignant returned to the palace. Seeing the injured guards, King Benignant’s heart was filled with sorrow. He approached Choler and said "If your desire is to rule this country, please leave these men alone, they are all innocent beings."
Choler was taken aback by the King’s words. "Aren't you angry?"
King Benignant said, "No, I am the least angry with you."
Choler questioned the King again, "Why do you treat me with respect?"
"Because you deserve to be respected," said King Benignant. "Please stop this fight and I shall prepare a feast for you."
With the kindness words from King Benignant, Choler body seems to be weakening.
"Let me send my servants to prepare some food and will be ready in a short while." Said King Benignant and Choler had shrunk further. The wounds on Choler are recovering and the odor that surrounds him seems to have dispersed along with the recovering wounds.
Seeing King Benignant treated Choler with respects and kindness, the guards felt guilty. They apologised for their action and start to massage his body and foot.
With every kind words and gestures, Choler had shrunk further and further. The odor that emits from his skin dispersed and eventually, Choler disappears from the palace.
You may find this story amazing but this story is happening everyday within each and every one of us. Choler is the anger demon that is within us. Each time, we get angry, Choler grows stronger and stronger, and it also becomes more and more destructive.
When we are being “attacked”, we behave just like Choler. We speak loudly, nastier and sarcastic. The negative thoughts, remarks and actions will never have any help to our current problems. Instead it will become more serious and worse, when we are being cornered, when we have only destroyed everything and everyone around us.
Being angry is addictive and provides pleasure when we destroy our enemies, but who will face the consequences? It is only you and I shall face the fruit of our anger. Only when we show others with due respect and kindness, we will be able to have control with our anger.
I faced problems when getting along with people. I become hot tempered when things went wrong and never willing to accept others’ criticism. But I realized that flaring up into rage will not get what I want and instead, I’m hurting people around me as well as myself. People find that I’m unapproachable and difficult to deal with.
When I have learnt to accept the way it is; the problem has become smaller and manageable. Before I know it, I have found the way to solve it.
As I strive to shrink my "Choler" and find my "Benignant", I urge that each and every one of you will also be able to control your "Choler" and let your "Benignant" take control.
Contest chair.
In a faraway land, not too distant from today, there lived a smart king, King Benignant. He rules his country with wisdom and patience. All beings are living happily as the country prospers under the leadership of King Benignant.
All, except one. The demon, named Choler, the most horrendous creature. Choler is massive in size and stand at a height of 10 feet tall. His skin is dull red in color and it gives out a strange odor. It stinks so much that you can hardly breathe normally when he is around. No one knows where he came from but every being sends shivers down their spine when they see him.
One day, Choler knew King Benignant was not around, stomped right into the palace, causing great destruction. Choler turned over every tables and chairs that were within his sight while he made his way towards the throne at royal audience hall. The guards were so afraid of him that none of them dares to stop him. However, the guards know very well that if they could not stop Choler in time, he will destroy the entire palace. Using their shields and spears, they form a wall of defenses to fight against Choler.
"Stop it, you evil demon! Stop it now!!" shouted the angry guards. But Choler was too strong for them. Each time the guards cursed Choler, he just grows bigger and stronger. Choler finally sat on the throne of King Benignant.
Filled with disgust and anger, the guards shouted at Choler, "You demon, get out off here or else we will rip you apart".
"Ha ha ha, show me what you are capable of," Choler was gloating happily, "You will never be able to come near me. Ha ha ha"
"Charged!" shouted the guards. They attacked Choler with all their strength and might but Choler keeps growing bigger and stronger.
After much confrontation, King Benignant returned to the palace. Seeing the injured guards, King Benignant’s heart was filled with sorrow. He approached Choler and said "If your desire is to rule this country, please leave these men alone, they are all innocent beings."
Choler was taken aback by the King’s words. "Aren't you angry?"
King Benignant said, "No, I am the least angry with you."
Choler questioned the King again, "Why do you treat me with respect?"
"Because you deserve to be respected," said King Benignant. "Please stop this fight and I shall prepare a feast for you."
With the kindness words from King Benignant, Choler body seems to be weakening.
"Let me send my servants to prepare some food and will be ready in a short while." Said King Benignant and Choler had shrunk further. The wounds on Choler are recovering and the odor that surrounds him seems to have dispersed along with the recovering wounds.
Seeing King Benignant treated Choler with respects and kindness, the guards felt guilty. They apologised for their action and start to massage his body and foot.
With every kind words and gestures, Choler had shrunk further and further. The odor that emits from his skin dispersed and eventually, Choler disappears from the palace.
You may find this story amazing but this story is happening everyday within each and every one of us. Choler is the anger demon that is within us. Each time, we get angry, Choler grows stronger and stronger, and it also becomes more and more destructive.
When we are being “attacked”, we behave just like Choler. We speak loudly, nastier and sarcastic. The negative thoughts, remarks and actions will never have any help to our current problems. Instead it will become more serious and worse, when we are being cornered, when we have only destroyed everything and everyone around us.
Being angry is addictive and provides pleasure when we destroy our enemies, but who will face the consequences? It is only you and I shall face the fruit of our anger. Only when we show others with due respect and kindness, we will be able to have control with our anger.
I faced problems when getting along with people. I become hot tempered when things went wrong and never willing to accept others’ criticism. But I realized that flaring up into rage will not get what I want and instead, I’m hurting people around me as well as myself. People find that I’m unapproachable and difficult to deal with.
When I have learnt to accept the way it is; the problem has become smaller and manageable. Before I know it, I have found the way to solve it.
As I strive to shrink my "Choler" and find my "Benignant", I urge that each and every one of you will also be able to control your "Choler" and let your "Benignant" take control.
Contest chair.
01 March, 2008
29 Feb 2008
29 Feb 2008 is the eventful day for me because I finally took up the challenge that my immediate past club president set for me. I took part in Toastmasters Club Speech Contest. It is my first attempt to speak up in a lecturer theater, using without notes. I can tell you it is not an easy task for me but I did it!
After 3 years in Toastmasters, I still couldn't get over my shyness and nervousous in public speaking. But this time round is slightly different, I tell myself, "Okay since I have this problem, I shall tackle with it and not to run away from it anymore." I realised that facing the problem is always better than running away from it. Because I don't need to live with it in fear anymore!
And true enough, after 2 weeks of serious preparation and good advises from my immediate past club president, I know where is my strength and weaknesses in public speaking. There is a chinese saying, a great performance on stage requires 10 years of training. I agreed totally with this because without training hard enough to myself to speak to my mirror, to my wall, to my cupboard, to Guan Yin Buddha and finally my parents. I couldn't be able to stand on my feet to speak up during the contest.
But nothing beats facing the real audience. The feeling is sensation. I feel excited, happy and nervous at the same time. When i speak up, they response, they show that they keen to know more and listening to my speech carefully. It's not a smooth delivery for the first attempt afterall. But I did finished my whole speech without feeling fearful.
A stranger walked to me and said, "That is a brave thing to do. Well Done." I guess she must have felt how i feel for this contest. Wishes comes from my new friends, my dear friends and family are unexpected and I am very grateful for that.
Yes, I finally did something for myself which I feel proud of!
After 3 years in Toastmasters, I still couldn't get over my shyness and nervousous in public speaking. But this time round is slightly different, I tell myself, "Okay since I have this problem, I shall tackle with it and not to run away from it anymore." I realised that facing the problem is always better than running away from it. Because I don't need to live with it in fear anymore!
And true enough, after 2 weeks of serious preparation and good advises from my immediate past club president, I know where is my strength and weaknesses in public speaking. There is a chinese saying, a great performance on stage requires 10 years of training. I agreed totally with this because without training hard enough to myself to speak to my mirror, to my wall, to my cupboard, to Guan Yin Buddha and finally my parents. I couldn't be able to stand on my feet to speak up during the contest.But nothing beats facing the real audience. The feeling is sensation. I feel excited, happy and nervous at the same time. When i speak up, they response, they show that they keen to know more and listening to my speech carefully. It's not a smooth delivery for the first attempt afterall. But I did finished my whole speech without feeling fearful. A stranger walked to me and said, "That is a brave thing to do. Well Done." I guess she must have felt how i feel for this contest. Wishes comes from my new friends, my dear friends and family are unexpected and I am very grateful for that.
Yes, I finally did something for myself which I feel proud of!
29 February, 2008
Last Lecture
Do watch this clip... It is very meaningful... This lecturer appeared on Oprah's show.
This lecturer has cancer and was going to die soon. He gave a lecture, named as the "Last Lecture", before his life is up in a few months. It was being recorded and downloaded by millions. He reflected about his life, was thankful to his parents for a fun and happy childhood. He spoke about his parents, how he grew up having dreams, how he choose to live life, etc...
He ended off with a very touching note. He said something like "I gave this lecture not to a group of 400 university graduates, I only gave this lecture to 3 people. Hopefully they will see it when they grew up" In the background, it showed 3 young kids. His kids...sob sob...
Why I say it is very meaningful because how many times can we choose to die and live as and when we want? The answer is none because when death comes upon you, you can't run away from it. The only thing you can do is to how to maximise your remaining days. You can choose between live with positive or negative mindset till the day you leave this world.
It also makes you reflect upon your own life now... spend a few minutes watching it and think about your own life... Rethink about how can you make your life happier and more meaningful and living with lesser regrets in life...
This lecturer has cancer and was going to die soon. He gave a lecture, named as the "Last Lecture", before his life is up in a few months. It was being recorded and downloaded by millions. He reflected about his life, was thankful to his parents for a fun and happy childhood. He spoke about his parents, how he grew up having dreams, how he choose to live life, etc...
He ended off with a very touching note. He said something like "I gave this lecture not to a group of 400 university graduates, I only gave this lecture to 3 people. Hopefully they will see it when they grew up" In the background, it showed 3 young kids. His kids...sob sob...
Why I say it is very meaningful because how many times can we choose to die and live as and when we want? The answer is none because when death comes upon you, you can't run away from it. The only thing you can do is to how to maximise your remaining days. You can choose between live with positive or negative mindset till the day you leave this world.
It also makes you reflect upon your own life now... spend a few minutes watching it and think about your own life... Rethink about how can you make your life happier and more meaningful and living with lesser regrets in life...
28 February, 2008
The story of leaving...
I'm sad that one of my colleagues from other dept is going to leave. He is a quiet guy who has a strong flair in drawing. He taught me how to do the nice CNY Deco which hanging around the corridor beautifully. He provides materials for me and from the way he teaches, I can tell that he is a patient person. I realised that being a nice and humble person doesn't work in a corporate life because nice guy die first.
He has to come to work in fear everyday. Not knowing when and what he will be scolded by her this time round. As usual, he was asked to go into her room again.
"Why your never prepared the first aid kit?" She retorted.
"I was busy with my stuffs." He replied with a low voice.
"Busy with what stuffs?" She asked impatiently.
"I need to coordinate 2 events for the past 2 weeks." He explained.
"What you did was just 10% of the entire thing and you do for so long! You don't make me prepare a schedule for you!...."
And she goes preaching and scolding on and on for nearly half an hour...for almost every day and finally he tenders.
After recieving his resignation letter, she said "So you want go because i scold u ah... everywhere outside also like this one... You will get scolding because you cannot perform..."
It is not the first time people throwing letters to her. The 1st person who worked with her for 3 yrs, 2nd person worked for 1.5 yrs, 3rd person worked for almost 1 yr & finally this humble man was not spared, after tolerating her for half a year.
She scolded at them loudly, not lest concerning of the President or other colleagues if they can hear it... If he is efficient, she scold him that he is trying to outsmart her. If he delay with work, she scold him for being inefficient. She complains that he never walks around the company premises to look for things to repair and scolded him when she can't find him at his desk. She never appologised when she did something wrong, everyone has a problem except herself.
I guess enough is enough... No one deserved to be scolded like this almost everyday. This reminds me one of my ex bosses, after one year of suffering, I think it's time to move on as I have learnt what I should.
The problem with these people is they will never realise that the problem lies with them and not others.
He has to come to work in fear everyday. Not knowing when and what he will be scolded by her this time round. As usual, he was asked to go into her room again.
"Why your never prepared the first aid kit?" She retorted.
"I was busy with my stuffs." He replied with a low voice.
"Busy with what stuffs?" She asked impatiently.
"I need to coordinate 2 events for the past 2 weeks." He explained.
"What you did was just 10% of the entire thing and you do for so long! You don't make me prepare a schedule for you!...."
And she goes preaching and scolding on and on for nearly half an hour...for almost every day and finally he tenders.
After recieving his resignation letter, she said "So you want go because i scold u ah... everywhere outside also like this one... You will get scolding because you cannot perform..."
It is not the first time people throwing letters to her. The 1st person who worked with her for 3 yrs, 2nd person worked for 1.5 yrs, 3rd person worked for almost 1 yr & finally this humble man was not spared, after tolerating her for half a year.
She scolded at them loudly, not lest concerning of the President or other colleagues if they can hear it... If he is efficient, she scold him that he is trying to outsmart her. If he delay with work, she scold him for being inefficient. She complains that he never walks around the company premises to look for things to repair and scolded him when she can't find him at his desk. She never appologised when she did something wrong, everyone has a problem except herself.
I guess enough is enough... No one deserved to be scolded like this almost everyday. This reminds me one of my ex bosses, after one year of suffering, I think it's time to move on as I have learnt what I should.
The problem with these people is they will never realise that the problem lies with them and not others.
27 February, 2008
Photographer of the Year 2007
(POTY)
Photographer of the Year result is out. I am so impressed by the standard set by the photographers around the world, esp. this overall portraits winner. They are not photographers for business. I dare to say that their standards are comparable to professional photographers. It is indeed an eye opener for me, carefully using the amount of lights and technical skills and most importantly, their works evoke my feelings.
Portraits Winner
Marta
Marta applied to a modelling agency and was rejected. Andrzej then saw her test photos by chance just a few months later and that’s how Marta became interested in being photographed. The photograph is interesting – not because of the fright it triggers, but because of a collision of two Martas. Thankfully Marta has now undergone treatment for her anorexia and is progressing well.
Canon 1Ds MkII with Canon 24-70mm f/2.8 L lens; ISO 50; single flash with a large softbox
About Photographer
Andrzej Dragan from Poland was born in 1978 and has studied in Warsaw, Amsterdam, Oxford and Lisbon. He received a PhD in quantum physics in 2005 and has been involved in photography since 2003. His images have been published in numerous magazines around the world.
Judges' Comments
"One of the most powerful portraits that I’ve ever seen. The technical quality, lighting and composition are matched by the extremely emotive power of the subject."
"With this beautiful young face and what looks like an aged body, this was a clear winner, despite the harrowing nature of the image. The photo almost defies belief. It's also helped by clear, simple lighting and composition. What this does demonstrate is how a good, simple treatment of such a remarkable subject can still produce a memorable image."
"A heartbreaking photo that must have required a great deal of trust between photographer and subject."
Viewers' Comments
Some comments on this photo:
Sunny Elena: I don't see it as a wonderful shot, just a girl in front of the wall. Yes, it's sad to see her in this condition, but what does it have to do with photography? Why does everybody praise distortion and freakness? Why should the best photograph reflect only scary and disturbing things? Why can people enjoy beauty? I'll never understand such art. Wrinkled faces, distorted features, deformity - this is what the art of our age praises. They say the art reflects the soul of people of the century. What disformed souls we have!
Sangi: Photography is not about beauty and all things sweet..photograpy is about capturing life in all its glory and disgrace... photography is a moment in time, a reality..this photo is a fact of life
Qiqi: What Sangi has said, which i couldn't be more agree with! Two Thumbs up for Sangi's reply!
Ask yourself why people are disturbed by this photo? Simply because they get to see the real fact of life... Do you know how many young ladies like Matra, as young as 18, have been starving themselves just to get into the top notch model agency. Then you should rethink that why is our society has this kind of disturbing mindset that slim / skinny is beautiful? Is it about time to change our mindset?
Beauty should comes from the heart and not the physical body.
"Click here to find out other winners works."
26 February, 2008
CNY Co Dinner 2008
If you can remember, my last year company chinese new year dinner was at Roland Restuarant. It was the worse "D&D" dinner I ever had. Wrong place, wrong crowd. Here is the recap.
The "clever HR" go and fix our company dinner on friday, a date that everyone is busy with the airshow. As my whole marcom team is too tired running the airshow event for these few days. They need to rest. Therefore, I represent my whole marcom team to go for this year dinner.
I tell myself this year, I will repeat the same mistake again. Knowing my HR will anyhow allocate the seat for me, I personally told HR who I want to sit this time round. True enough, the HR people screwed up this time again. They want me to sit with them again!!!
Eat with them is worse than eating alone. No conversation, no smiling, just focusing on what the food is being served and eating. No way manz, one time bad experience is enough for me.
I told them right from the beginning that I want to sit with my colleagues whom I know and I asked them to add in one more chair. Being stick in the mud, of course they turned down it down flatly. I simply refused to give in this time, ignoring what they say, I went in to sit with my colleagues. I'm quite lucky that one of my colleagues came in late and the other guy had to leave early for the nite. Eventually, I got to sit where I wanted.
This year was at Safra Mount Faber. The MC is quite humorous and the games played are quite interactive, mostly on focusing on teamwork. Some how my table is the lucky one, keep getting "saboed" by the MC. Besides, games, we had a few guys singing for us, invited local version of "Shang Liu Mei" as comedian guest and a simple magic show. I shared my last year "7th month Co dinner" experience with my colleagues, they were laughing about it. Urgh...
Yes, this time round with the right crowd, atmosphere became right and although the food was equally lousy, but I did enjoy myself. The crowd does make a big difference.
The "clever HR" go and fix our company dinner on friday, a date that everyone is busy with the airshow. As my whole marcom team is too tired running the airshow event for these few days. They need to rest. Therefore, I represent my whole marcom team to go for this year dinner.
I tell myself this year, I will repeat the same mistake again. Knowing my HR will anyhow allocate the seat for me, I personally told HR who I want to sit this time round. True enough, the HR people screwed up this time again. They want me to sit with them again!!!
Eat with them is worse than eating alone. No conversation, no smiling, just focusing on what the food is being served and eating. No way manz, one time bad experience is enough for me.
I told them right from the beginning that I want to sit with my colleagues whom I know and I asked them to add in one more chair. Being stick in the mud, of course they turned down it down flatly. I simply refused to give in this time, ignoring what they say, I went in to sit with my colleagues. I'm quite lucky that one of my colleagues came in late and the other guy had to leave early for the nite. Eventually, I got to sit where I wanted.
This year was at Safra Mount Faber. The MC is quite humorous and the games played are quite interactive, mostly on focusing on teamwork. Some how my table is the lucky one, keep getting "saboed" by the MC. Besides, games, we had a few guys singing for us, invited local version of "Shang Liu Mei" as comedian guest and a simple magic show. I shared my last year "7th month Co dinner" experience with my colleagues, they were laughing about it. Urgh...
Yes, this time round with the right crowd, atmosphere became right and although the food was equally lousy, but I did enjoy myself. The crowd does make a big difference.
25 February, 2008
Own Desire
In a land where everyone was so captivated about their own desire, there was a man asks Buddha for a flower and a butterfly. But instead Buddha gave him a cactus and a caterpillar. The man was sad because he didn't know why his request has been misunderstood...
Then he thought: "Oh well, Buddha has too many people to care for..."
And he decided not to question Buddha.
After some time, the man went to check on his request that he had forgotten behind.
To his surprise, from the thorny and ugly cactus has grown a beautiful flower beside it. Likewise for the caterpillar, it has transformed to the most beautiful butterfly.
Buddha may not give what you exactly what you request for at that time. However, he will show you the path if you are willing to follow and you will receive what you need at the appropriate time.
Then he thought: "Oh well, Buddha has too many people to care for..."
And he decided not to question Buddha.
After some time, the man went to check on his request that he had forgotten behind.
To his surprise, from the thorny and ugly cactus has grown a beautiful flower beside it. Likewise for the caterpillar, it has transformed to the most beautiful butterfly.
Buddha may not give what you exactly what you request for at that time. However, he will show you the path if you are willing to follow and you will receive what you need at the appropriate time.
24 February, 2008
Buzzing Cashier
Why do some food businesses get the thumbs-down? Together with the hosts Kym Ng, Quan Yi Feng and Dennis Chew, various famous chefs will assess the factors that contribute to the ailing businesses and try to correct them. Find out if the stall owners can revive their businesses with advice from the trade experts!
This programme is copying almost exactly like the Japanese variety show in sg production. Even though it is copied, i still enjoyed this show very much because from this programme I learnt a few tips of the cooking skills, as well as life lessons.
The recent episode is about a woman who used to be a boss of tailor shop. Due to the bad businesses, had no choice but to close down the shop. She decided to open up a fish soup stall at Dunman Food Centre. However, she didnt do her research well, of cos she is bound to fail and her stall business is really bad.
The mediacorp decided to help her and give her a famous chef to teach her how to cook a bowl of delicious fish soup. During the training, the chef realised that she can't even cut fish properly and she doesn't know how to cook fish soup at all. The chef is very patient and forgiving with her even though she makes a lot of mistakes. He saw her keen interest and willingness to learn, although he pretends that he didn't see.
What she think was easy from the beginning has become a tough task for her. She got to wake up much early, just to practice what the chef has taught her, over and over again.
Learnt a great lesson from her is that if there's a will, there is a way. Someone told me before that there is no student that cant be taught. It's how much time and effort the student is willing to learn and absorb.
Being a boss in the past, she got to let go of her pride and start learning everything from scratch again. Even the chef is unsure if she can make it with such a lousy standard from the beginning. What i admire her most was, with her strong perseverance, patience for herself to learn and hard work, she is able to breakthrough from her own mindset and achieve what she wants.
At the end of the show, she has finally managed to conquer her fear, proved herself that she can master the skills of cooking delicious fish soup. Feeling gratitude towards that chef, she bought him a bottle of tea leaves. This is a very nice gesture of her. We must learn to be grateful for what we have received or taught.
It's every Tues, 8pm, channel 8. IT'S A MUST WATCH VARITEY!!!
This programme is copying almost exactly like the Japanese variety show in sg production. Even though it is copied, i still enjoyed this show very much because from this programme I learnt a few tips of the cooking skills, as well as life lessons.
The recent episode is about a woman who used to be a boss of tailor shop. Due to the bad businesses, had no choice but to close down the shop. She decided to open up a fish soup stall at Dunman Food Centre. However, she didnt do her research well, of cos she is bound to fail and her stall business is really bad.
The mediacorp decided to help her and give her a famous chef to teach her how to cook a bowl of delicious fish soup. During the training, the chef realised that she can't even cut fish properly and she doesn't know how to cook fish soup at all. The chef is very patient and forgiving with her even though she makes a lot of mistakes. He saw her keen interest and willingness to learn, although he pretends that he didn't see.
What she think was easy from the beginning has become a tough task for her. She got to wake up much early, just to practice what the chef has taught her, over and over again.
Learnt a great lesson from her is that if there's a will, there is a way. Someone told me before that there is no student that cant be taught. It's how much time and effort the student is willing to learn and absorb.
Being a boss in the past, she got to let go of her pride and start learning everything from scratch again. Even the chef is unsure if she can make it with such a lousy standard from the beginning. What i admire her most was, with her strong perseverance, patience for herself to learn and hard work, she is able to breakthrough from her own mindset and achieve what she wants.
At the end of the show, she has finally managed to conquer her fear, proved herself that she can master the skills of cooking delicious fish soup. Feeling gratitude towards that chef, she bought him a bottle of tea leaves. This is a very nice gesture of her. We must learn to be grateful for what we have received or taught.
It's every Tues, 8pm, channel 8. IT'S A MUST WATCH VARITEY!!!
18 February, 2008
CJ7
Very nice and heartwarming story about a poor labourer who got an alien toy for his son, simply because he couldn't afford it and a fantasy story spin off from here. The alien pet dog, CJ7 is so cute! Well, it doesn't look very fake though it look impossible to be realistic.
There was a touching scene when the father passed away because of an accident and CJ7 brought him back to life.. As such, it cost CJ7's life too. A little sad scene that will leave you with some tears if you are quite emotional type.
There were many hilarious scenes that are not overdone or common that you can even predict what is going to happen..
I enjoyed the whole movie throughout and didn't expect it to end so quickly.. If the movie is longer, it will be better. Recommend you all to watch it ;) And on a lighter note, I disagree if this movie is rated less than 3 stars. It's definitely deserves more then that! Till now I still remember this tagline in the movie :"Even we are poor, we must still live with pride!"
15 February, 2008
Learn to love in a right way
I went to listen to Ajahn Brahm talk, he share with us the wisdom on love. How to love a person in a right way? Many people think that they know how to love. They know what love really is. But in the end, they are hurting the ones they love and including themselves. It's not about selfless love, it's not about loving yourself but it's about us loving one another.
He said in a humorous way:
"If you are wrong, say u are sorry. If you are correct, shut up."
He shared with us a woman is abused by her husband. When he hit her, she let it go. When her husband did something good, she appreciates his gesture. This is called "positive forgiveness". It took her 7 long years to change a violent monster into a loving husband and dad. Without a strong commitment, faith, love and compassion, not many people can go through these trials of life.
He said all of us are wonderful people. During the heated fight, we are looking at the 2 bad bricks instead of 98 good bricks and it will mislead us into wrong perceptions. Sometimes our negative experiences and thoughts will mislead us into believing something negatives and thus it will mislead us into wrong judgement.
A guy asked him what happens if there a couple realise that they are not compatible at all after so many years. He simply replied, "There must be something that attracted to both of you in the first place. When Love is not there, it is just hiding somewhere and you have to find it yourself. If you find it hard enough, you will find what you want. You give up because you dont want to find it anymore."
Love is receiving, giving and loving.
It's always easy to say than done. We will have to practice day after day, weeks after weeks and years after years.
He said in a humorous way:
"If you are wrong, say u are sorry. If you are correct, shut up."
He shared with us a woman is abused by her husband. When he hit her, she let it go. When her husband did something good, she appreciates his gesture. This is called "positive forgiveness". It took her 7 long years to change a violent monster into a loving husband and dad. Without a strong commitment, faith, love and compassion, not many people can go through these trials of life.
He said all of us are wonderful people. During the heated fight, we are looking at the 2 bad bricks instead of 98 good bricks and it will mislead us into wrong perceptions. Sometimes our negative experiences and thoughts will mislead us into believing something negatives and thus it will mislead us into wrong judgement.
A guy asked him what happens if there a couple realise that they are not compatible at all after so many years. He simply replied, "There must be something that attracted to both of you in the first place. When Love is not there, it is just hiding somewhere and you have to find it yourself. If you find it hard enough, you will find what you want. You give up because you dont want to find it anymore."
Love is receiving, giving and loving.
It's always easy to say than done. We will have to practice day after day, weeks after weeks and years after years.
14 February, 2008
Nice V Day Surprise
If you are thinking that i will blog about who and who is giving flowers on Valentine-Day. Then you will be feeling disappointed already... 'cause i'm not going to write that...
The story goes like this... In the middle of the night, a sweet angel send me 5 mmses over to my mobile last night. It was rather sweet because i havent expect her to did such thing on Vday. Then an intruder called me when i was reading the sweet MMS halfway. Feeling annoyed, i told him i was busy with something right now. Luckily, the 5 MMSes were sent over completely, when he called. I took my time to read it again a few times :)
Valentines' Day is not only a day to strengthen love relationship but it is also a special day to appreciate friendship too so i decided do something back in return. Use the 5 MMes and designed them into a postcard and giving it back to her. Looking at her beautiful smile on her face and i know she felt the sincerity in this postcard...
May all singles or attached or married couples be happy in this romantic day :) Happy V Day!
The story goes like this... In the middle of the night, a sweet angel send me 5 mmses over to my mobile last night. It was rather sweet because i havent expect her to did such thing on Vday. Then an intruder called me when i was reading the sweet MMS halfway. Feeling annoyed, i told him i was busy with something right now. Luckily, the 5 MMSes were sent over completely, when he called. I took my time to read it again a few times :)
Valentines' Day is not only a day to strengthen love relationship but it is also a special day to appreciate friendship too so i decided do something back in return. Use the 5 MMes and designed them into a postcard and giving it back to her. Looking at her beautiful smile on her face and i know she felt the sincerity in this postcard...
May all singles or attached or married couples be happy in this romantic day :) Happy V Day!
13 February, 2008
12 Tips for a Better Vacation
Here's our comprehensive look at the best ways to get the most out of your vacation.
I. Take a photo of everything
Buy a digital camera (it'll change your life) and a big memory card (minimum 1 gigabyte). Snap pictures of where you parked your rental car, the ferry schedule, how full the gas tank was when you returned the car to the lot, and so on. You can always delete the photos later.
II. ATM? Credit cards? Traveler's checks?
All of the above. To get cash, use an ATM. Your bank may have agreements with foreign banks; Bank of America, for one, belongs to the Global ATM Alliance, which means its customers can make free withdrawals from over 30,000 ATMs in eight countries. Use credit cards to make purchases (if you have more than one, figure out which has the lowest conversion fee). In some countries, they'll print your account number on the receipt, so don't blithely toss it in the trash. For emergencies, it helps to bring a few hundred dollars in traveler's checks.
III. Don't call home
There are ways to place calls cheaply from abroad, both with a cell phone and without (such as Skype). But unless you're traveling around the world for months on end, you don't really need to call. Create a Web-based e-mail account and keep in touch that way. You can go online at an Internet café for about $3 an hour. In the U.S., also look for libraries, which tend to have free access.
IV. Almost every city has a transit pass
And it's always a better deal than buying á la carte.
V. Know your rights
If you're bumped from a domestic flight and you get onto another flight within one to two hours, the airline pays you the equivalent of a one-way fare ($200 max); more than two hours and you get up to $400. Vouchers are an option, too. If your checked bag is delayed, the airline covers expenses for toiletries and clothing until it delivers the bag to you. For a lost bag, the carrier must reimburse you, up to $3,000. If your hotel is overbooked, the hotel must find you a room at a comparable or better property nearby, at no extra charge.
VI. Don't save the best for the last day
What if the weather takes a turn for the worse? What if you get sick? What if a giant meteor falls from the sky and lands right on your room? You'll wish that you had gone snorkeling earlier in your trip.
VII. Nothing kills the fun like a long wait
For most major attractions, you can buy tickets online in advance. Also, in many cities there are passes that can be a great deal, especially because they let you skip to the head of the line. The big U.S. pass companies are CityPass and Go Card. The New York CityPass, for instance, costs $53 for adults - a smart value even if you're only going to three of the five attractions offered: the regular price for the Guggenheim Museum is $18; Circle Line Sightseeing Cruise, $24; American Museum of Natural History & Rose Center, $14; Empire State Building, $18; and Museum of Modern Art, $20.
VIII. Jet lag is inevitable
Human beings were not designed to fly halfway around the world. All you can really do is not drink alcohol on the plane, keep hydrated, get in synch with the new time zone as soon as you can, and exercise after landing (the last one is crucial).
IX. "See you inside!"
Some popular museums - such as the Louvre in Paris - have more than one entrance; the lesser-known ones often have shorter lines. And for some attractions, you can buy tickets at places other than the end of a long line at the front door. Tickets for Versailles are available in advance at Fnac record stores in France and at fnac.com; in Rome, tickets purchased at the Palatine museum also let you walk right into the Colosseum.
X. A tax loophole for hunter-gatherers
When returning to the U.S., Americans may bring $800 of goods for personal use without having to pay duties or taxes. If you buy more than that, ship it home: You can send $200 of goods per day to yourself at a U.S. address. You can also send duty-free gifts worth up to $100 per person per day to people in the U.S. Bear in mind that shipping companies charge based on bulk or weight, whichever costs more, so pack efficiently.
XI. Basic training
If the airport you're flying into is served by a train, take it if you're heading anywhere near the city center. Unless, of course, you're traveling in a group of three or more people, when a taxi is probably more cost-effective.
XII. If you're going to complain, do it right
1. Speak up as soon as you have a problem. The longer you wait, the more the company will assume it wasn't that big of a deal.
2. Unsatisfied with the response? Politely ask for a supervisor. Never take "no" from someone who isn't empowered to say yes. The corollary is: Don't complain to anyone who can't help you. All that you're doing is ruining their day.
3. Even - or especially - if someone promises you the world, get it in writing.
4. Build a case! Take notes, keep receipts, get names. Your goal is to show that you really mean business.
5. When corresponding, do it by letter or e-mail. It beats calling, getting passed around, and telling your story over and over. But make copies before you send any originals.
Extracted from Yahoo.com Site.
I. Take a photo of everything
Buy a digital camera (it'll change your life) and a big memory card (minimum 1 gigabyte). Snap pictures of where you parked your rental car, the ferry schedule, how full the gas tank was when you returned the car to the lot, and so on. You can always delete the photos later.
II. ATM? Credit cards? Traveler's checks?
All of the above. To get cash, use an ATM. Your bank may have agreements with foreign banks; Bank of America, for one, belongs to the Global ATM Alliance, which means its customers can make free withdrawals from over 30,000 ATMs in eight countries. Use credit cards to make purchases (if you have more than one, figure out which has the lowest conversion fee). In some countries, they'll print your account number on the receipt, so don't blithely toss it in the trash. For emergencies, it helps to bring a few hundred dollars in traveler's checks.
III. Don't call home
There are ways to place calls cheaply from abroad, both with a cell phone and without (such as Skype). But unless you're traveling around the world for months on end, you don't really need to call. Create a Web-based e-mail account and keep in touch that way. You can go online at an Internet café for about $3 an hour. In the U.S., also look for libraries, which tend to have free access.
IV. Almost every city has a transit pass
And it's always a better deal than buying á la carte.
V. Know your rights
If you're bumped from a domestic flight and you get onto another flight within one to two hours, the airline pays you the equivalent of a one-way fare ($200 max); more than two hours and you get up to $400. Vouchers are an option, too. If your checked bag is delayed, the airline covers expenses for toiletries and clothing until it delivers the bag to you. For a lost bag, the carrier must reimburse you, up to $3,000. If your hotel is overbooked, the hotel must find you a room at a comparable or better property nearby, at no extra charge.
VI. Don't save the best for the last day
What if the weather takes a turn for the worse? What if you get sick? What if a giant meteor falls from the sky and lands right on your room? You'll wish that you had gone snorkeling earlier in your trip.
VII. Nothing kills the fun like a long wait
For most major attractions, you can buy tickets online in advance. Also, in many cities there are passes that can be a great deal, especially because they let you skip to the head of the line. The big U.S. pass companies are CityPass and Go Card. The New York CityPass, for instance, costs $53 for adults - a smart value even if you're only going to three of the five attractions offered: the regular price for the Guggenheim Museum is $18; Circle Line Sightseeing Cruise, $24; American Museum of Natural History & Rose Center, $14; Empire State Building, $18; and Museum of Modern Art, $20.
VIII. Jet lag is inevitable
Human beings were not designed to fly halfway around the world. All you can really do is not drink alcohol on the plane, keep hydrated, get in synch with the new time zone as soon as you can, and exercise after landing (the last one is crucial).
IX. "See you inside!"
Some popular museums - such as the Louvre in Paris - have more than one entrance; the lesser-known ones often have shorter lines. And for some attractions, you can buy tickets at places other than the end of a long line at the front door. Tickets for Versailles are available in advance at Fnac record stores in France and at fnac.com; in Rome, tickets purchased at the Palatine museum also let you walk right into the Colosseum.
X. A tax loophole for hunter-gatherers
When returning to the U.S., Americans may bring $800 of goods for personal use without having to pay duties or taxes. If you buy more than that, ship it home: You can send $200 of goods per day to yourself at a U.S. address. You can also send duty-free gifts worth up to $100 per person per day to people in the U.S. Bear in mind that shipping companies charge based on bulk or weight, whichever costs more, so pack efficiently.
XI. Basic training
If the airport you're flying into is served by a train, take it if you're heading anywhere near the city center. Unless, of course, you're traveling in a group of three or more people, when a taxi is probably more cost-effective.
XII. If you're going to complain, do it right
1. Speak up as soon as you have a problem. The longer you wait, the more the company will assume it wasn't that big of a deal.
2. Unsatisfied with the response? Politely ask for a supervisor. Never take "no" from someone who isn't empowered to say yes. The corollary is: Don't complain to anyone who can't help you. All that you're doing is ruining their day.
3. Even - or especially - if someone promises you the world, get it in writing.
4. Build a case! Take notes, keep receipts, get names. Your goal is to show that you really mean business.
5. When corresponding, do it by letter or e-mail. It beats calling, getting passed around, and telling your story over and over. But make copies before you send any originals.
Extracted from Yahoo.com Site.
12 February, 2008
Huh, CNY holidays is over?
Feeling a sense of loss, after 4 days of relatives visitings and friends gatherings... For the first time in my whole entire mahjong(mj) games, i won "5 Fan" in the first round! Although its not big winning, but I break my own record :) Actually i really don't know how to play loh... when i say "Hu ah", my mj kakis said "Wah, it's 5 fan ah!" Can still consider as beginner's luck mah? Kinda yang yang de yi when i won, considered i was quite lucky ba when they always say i "kelong" one hehehe
Even though its just 5 days of offical "holidays". I just felt that its just not enough to recover from my holiday mood, so i took another day leave. I guess i have rested too much already. Simply don't have the mood to work because i'm seriously thinking about my next step and how can i achieve it.
I often heard "I have no time!" or "I'm so bored now."
Some people think they have too much time to spare... Waiting for time to pass... day after day...
While others think that they do not have enough time to use each day... or rushing to achieve some things or goals in life. I think Life is fair enough to give each and everyone the same amount of time. It really depends how we want to use it...
Yes, I have rested enough mentally and physically and it's about time to do something about myself, my pc and my own portfolio...
Even though its just 5 days of offical "holidays". I just felt that its just not enough to recover from my holiday mood, so i took another day leave. I guess i have rested too much already. Simply don't have the mood to work because i'm seriously thinking about my next step and how can i achieve it.
I often heard "I have no time!" or "I'm so bored now."
Some people think they have too much time to spare... Waiting for time to pass... day after day...
While others think that they do not have enough time to use each day... or rushing to achieve some things or goals in life. I think Life is fair enough to give each and everyone the same amount of time. It really depends how we want to use it...
Yes, I have rested enough mentally and physically and it's about time to do something about myself, my pc and my own portfolio...
05 February, 2008
Annoyance
Today I received a call from SDU, the consultant just called. She asked about the "dating" that she has arranged. I told her that I can't clicked with him and there is no more 2nd date. She asked me why not, He has good character and good career and what's more he is caring and filial...
Zzzz... Seems like the consultant did not hear clearly what i said. I repeated myself calmly "I'm not comfortable going out with him." "So what did he do to you?" I replied that "He did nothing to me, just that we cannot clicked. He is looking someone to settle down immediately and im looking someone for dating. Our expectations are just too different."
"You know hor you cannot based on one dating then you expect you to click with him immediately leh..." "I never think in that way loh" (deep in my heart, I was thinking aloud to myself : We not even friends, he starts to ask about my family, my friends and my job...tell me he got house and dunno what lah… asked me if we are an item can we get marry next year or not... wondering who is the desperate one)
"You must change your attitude leh. Even I introduce you 100 guys, you still will not be happy with the arrangements. Perhaps it’s your past bad relationships makes you feel so negative towards relationships. You should try to open up more, so that you have more choices. You can't expect people make you feel something for the first time... and I feel that you don’t know what you want... "
Hello, who is talking manz, she introduced someone which she think is good and she trying her best to imposing on her own beliefs and thoughts on me.... Let her think all she want, I'm not going to give in just because she SAY he is good then I MUST THINK he is good...
Attending SDU talks is just to make more new people and also to widen my circle of friends. And a couple of guys I met, seems quite alright, and we occasionally online chat. Just happened there is such "good opportunity" that this lady consultant offers her help to find "Mr right guy" for me. She keeps saying she is a very professional in her work. So I gave her a chance to perform. Then why is she keep imposing her ideas and trying her best to hard sell her guys to me?
If its a lousy marriage arrangement at the end of the day, is she going to take full responsible? Probably she will say, "Ohh its your call now, You have been seeing him, talking to him, and know what kind of person he really is. After all, you choose your own partner." So???
Call me being stubborn or whatever you want to call it. I'm someone believes in chemistry... have means have, dont have means dont have... 'cause my heart can't lie...
Zzzz... Seems like the consultant did not hear clearly what i said. I repeated myself calmly "I'm not comfortable going out with him." "So what did he do to you?" I replied that "He did nothing to me, just that we cannot clicked. He is looking someone to settle down immediately and im looking someone for dating. Our expectations are just too different."
"You know hor you cannot based on one dating then you expect you to click with him immediately leh..." "I never think in that way loh" (deep in my heart, I was thinking aloud to myself : We not even friends, he starts to ask about my family, my friends and my job...tell me he got house and dunno what lah… asked me if we are an item can we get marry next year or not... wondering who is the desperate one)
"You must change your attitude leh. Even I introduce you 100 guys, you still will not be happy with the arrangements. Perhaps it’s your past bad relationships makes you feel so negative towards relationships. You should try to open up more, so that you have more choices. You can't expect people make you feel something for the first time... and I feel that you don’t know what you want... "
Hello, who is talking manz, she introduced someone which she think is good and she trying her best to imposing on her own beliefs and thoughts on me.... Let her think all she want, I'm not going to give in just because she SAY he is good then I MUST THINK he is good...
Attending SDU talks is just to make more new people and also to widen my circle of friends. And a couple of guys I met, seems quite alright, and we occasionally online chat. Just happened there is such "good opportunity" that this lady consultant offers her help to find "Mr right guy" for me. She keeps saying she is a very professional in her work. So I gave her a chance to perform. Then why is she keep imposing her ideas and trying her best to hard sell her guys to me?
If its a lousy marriage arrangement at the end of the day, is she going to take full responsible? Probably she will say, "Ohh its your call now, You have been seeing him, talking to him, and know what kind of person he really is. After all, you choose your own partner." So???
Call me being stubborn or whatever you want to call it. I'm someone believes in chemistry... have means have, dont have means dont have... 'cause my heart can't lie...
04 February, 2008
New pal
Have been working in my company for a year plus already, jan told me that there is another designer. I told her impossible as i have been the one and only in house designer in the entire company.
I went to ask one of my marcom colleagues, she told me there is a designer working at another department. Searching high and low for her info and finding found her email. Dropped her email and we shared our experiences in our office. We were excited about meeting each other... Yah finally met someone who can feel the same way as me in this systematic, boring working environment.
Yeah finally get to meet this "mystery" designer :) She is as friendly as i imagine her to be... I realised she is my junior, 2 years younger than me. She has a very sweet voice and feel comfortable with her when we chat. Nice, nice feeling with this new pal.
I went to ask one of my marcom colleagues, she told me there is a designer working at another department. Searching high and low for her info and finding found her email. Dropped her email and we shared our experiences in our office. We were excited about meeting each other... Yah finally met someone who can feel the same way as me in this systematic, boring working environment.
Yeah finally get to meet this "mystery" designer :) She is as friendly as i imagine her to be... I realised she is my junior, 2 years younger than me. She has a very sweet voice and feel comfortable with her when we chat. Nice, nice feeling with this new pal.
02 February, 2008
To St. Nicholas, with love
Centuries ago, Father Nicholas Barre
He was deeply in prayer, when he heard a voice say:
"Take a walk in the streets and see the girls out there,
Everyday for them is like a living nightmare!"
Now these girls had no rights, no chance to education
Girls of that time, salves of discrimination.
What entered his eyes went straight to his heart
From then he decided that a school he would start,
And to this school flocked the poor and deprived
Where they finally found hope, a whole new meaning in life.
He provided for them food, shelter and care.
Soon they all learnt, it was a virtue to share.
Convent of the Holy Infant Jesus it would be named,
In aid of needy young women for which the school was famed.
Branching far and wide, a mission burning inside,
The sisters of the Convent set out to serve and guide.
Now since that time, it's been a full sixty years
Through the ups and downs, all the laughter and tears
We created a home, filling it with love
But we couldn't have made it without help from above.
So smack in the middle of Avenue 2
Is St. Nicholas Girls’ a huge garden school.
The palm trees sway to the whistling of the wind
"St. Nicholas Greets You", echoes from within.
There are mirrors on the wall to keep us tidy and neat.
As well as clocks in every corner, keeping us on our feet.
Different species of plants sprout out from everywhere
To keep a long story short, our school is far from bare.
There’re roosters, squirrels, fish and turtles too
Even crocodiles, it’s like a mini zoo!
Here we learn to love, the creatures of nature
For without humanity, what good is the future?
Uniform groups, the core ECAs,
Sports and societies, more than just work and play
Invaluable experience, acquiring a skill
Ambitious and dreams that we strive to fulfil.
Putting ECAs and our studies aside,
Other activities too that we take in our stride
Mondays, our enrichment course
All these for the good of the Sec Ones to Fours
Social graces, how to look good and feel good
"Sit like a lady! Don’t gobble your food!"
In addition, improve prounciation
Write a resume, conduct a conversation.
Arranging flowers, in a bouquet or two
Carving vegetable, just to name a few.
Learning how to swim, not just to win the race
Appreciating arts, just to cultivate to our taste
Events in school, we’ve got quite a few
Like the “Clean and Green” and Sports day too
Not forgetting Family Day to keep the spirit strong
This is our second home where we really belong.
The people, they really warm our hearts
We’re like a body, we play our own parts.
校长，老师和同学们， 大家在一起，
真是快乐无比！
Mrs Huang, she is our source of inspiration
She runs this school with utmost dedication
Administrative staffs slog all day too
Just to provide a better life, for the sake of you and me
With 饮水思源 embedded in our hearts,
The Alumni set up to play a part
They work hand in hand with the school
To improve our second home.
There is a list of qualities an SN girl should possess
She is committed to her work, strives to be her best
She adapts to circumstances, She’s quick and versatile
Those who sow will reap their efforts, for all she knows it’s worth her while.
A positive view towards life and living
She’s sensitive, considerate, kind and forgiving
To be elegant, efficient, cultured and refined
To society, she’s a gift sublime.
Look at us now, how far we have come.
All united as one.
Breaking all barriers and building up bonds
Striving to keep the SN spirit strong!
Dedicated to each and every SNG student!
Written by 10 SNG students in year 1993, 14 August for 60 Years Anniversary.
After Thoughts:
When I read this dedication, there were so much mixed feelings gushing out of my heart. All my memories of SNG, just keep flashing non-stop over my head.
During that time, I didn't appreciate what the school has done for me, but now I do... I took for granted that it was natural for me to have such a wonderful study environment. I had so much fun with my friends. Playing has become the top most priority during that time. Until I didn't make it for my PSLE and I was asked to leave this beautiful place.
After knowing the ugly side of the real government school environment, I have learnt to appreciate SNG so much more. Those tiny little memories of close friends as well as my long lost friends came back to me once again. I felt like they were just yesterday.
Sometimes I would wonder what will my life be if only I buck up at the eleventh hour during my PSLE? Perhaps I would have changed my entire destiny? Most likely I will be the goody gal that SNG has taught me. Probably I would be an accountant because most of the girls in my family are working as accounting related jobs (as what Siew has reminded me, which i cannot even remember saying that to her) and of course having a family of my own by now, living a simple life.
When i think back what is so good about being a goody gal? Living under other people expectations, just like a puppet. If this is not what I want, then I wouldn't have experienced so much more. Because there is pain, i appreciate the good things in life more. I'm glad that I choose this path because I really love what i'm doing now and continue to shape my own life path.
Well, every coin has two sides, we choose our path and we shall face the consequence.
He was deeply in prayer, when he heard a voice say:
"Take a walk in the streets and see the girls out there,
Everyday for them is like a living nightmare!"
Now these girls had no rights, no chance to education
Girls of that time, salves of discrimination.
What entered his eyes went straight to his heart
From then he decided that a school he would start,
And to this school flocked the poor and deprived
Where they finally found hope, a whole new meaning in life.
He provided for them food, shelter and care.
Soon they all learnt, it was a virtue to share.
Convent of the Holy Infant Jesus it would be named,
In aid of needy young women for which the school was famed.
Branching far and wide, a mission burning inside,
The sisters of the Convent set out to serve and guide.
Now since that time, it's been a full sixty years
Through the ups and downs, all the laughter and tears
We created a home, filling it with love
But we couldn't have made it without help from above.
So smack in the middle of Avenue 2
Is St. Nicholas Girls’ a huge garden school.
The palm trees sway to the whistling of the wind
"St. Nicholas Greets You", echoes from within.
There are mirrors on the wall to keep us tidy and neat.
As well as clocks in every corner, keeping us on our feet.
Different species of plants sprout out from everywhere
To keep a long story short, our school is far from bare.
There’re roosters, squirrels, fish and turtles too
Even crocodiles, it’s like a mini zoo!
Here we learn to love, the creatures of nature
For without humanity, what good is the future?
Uniform groups, the core ECAs,
Sports and societies, more than just work and play
Invaluable experience, acquiring a skill
Ambitious and dreams that we strive to fulfil.
Putting ECAs and our studies aside,
Other activities too that we take in our stride
Mondays, our enrichment course
All these for the good of the Sec Ones to Fours
Social graces, how to look good and feel good
"Sit like a lady! Don’t gobble your food!"
In addition, improve prounciation
Write a resume, conduct a conversation.
Arranging flowers, in a bouquet or two
Carving vegetable, just to name a few.
Learning how to swim, not just to win the race
Appreciating arts, just to cultivate to our taste
Events in school, we’ve got quite a few
Like the “Clean and Green” and Sports day too
Not forgetting Family Day to keep the spirit strong
This is our second home where we really belong.
The people, they really warm our hearts
We’re like a body, we play our own parts.
校长，老师和同学们， 大家在一起，
真是快乐无比！
Mrs Huang, she is our source of inspiration
She runs this school with utmost dedication
Administrative staffs slog all day too
Just to provide a better life, for the sake of you and me
With 饮水思源 embedded in our hearts,
The Alumni set up to play a part
They work hand in hand with the school
To improve our second home.
There is a list of qualities an SN girl should possess
She is committed to her work, strives to be her best
She adapts to circumstances, She’s quick and versatile
Those who sow will reap their efforts, for all she knows it’s worth her while.
A positive view towards life and living
She’s sensitive, considerate, kind and forgiving
To be elegant, efficient, cultured and refined
To society, she’s a gift sublime.
Look at us now, how far we have come.
All united as one.
Breaking all barriers and building up bonds
Striving to keep the SN spirit strong!
Dedicated to each and every SNG student!
Written by 10 SNG students in year 1993, 14 August for 60 Years Anniversary.
After Thoughts:
When I read this dedication, there were so much mixed feelings gushing out of my heart. All my memories of SNG, just keep flashing non-stop over my head.
During that time, I didn't appreciate what the school has done for me, but now I do... I took for granted that it was natural for me to have such a wonderful study environment. I had so much fun with my friends. Playing has become the top most priority during that time. Until I didn't make it for my PSLE and I was asked to leave this beautiful place.
After knowing the ugly side of the real government school environment, I have learnt to appreciate SNG so much more. Those tiny little memories of close friends as well as my long lost friends came back to me once again. I felt like they were just yesterday.
Sometimes I would wonder what will my life be if only I buck up at the eleventh hour during my PSLE? Perhaps I would have changed my entire destiny? Most likely I will be the goody gal that SNG has taught me. Probably I would be an accountant because most of the girls in my family are working as accounting related jobs (as what Siew has reminded me, which i cannot even remember saying that to her) and of course having a family of my own by now, living a simple life.
When i think back what is so good about being a goody gal? Living under other people expectations, just like a puppet. If this is not what I want, then I wouldn't have experienced so much more. Because there is pain, i appreciate the good things in life more. I'm glad that I choose this path because I really love what i'm doing now and continue to shape my own life path.
Well, every coin has two sides, we choose our path and we shall face the consequence.
01 February, 2008
Old Pal
As my friend just comes back from Aussie for chinese new year, i took half day leave just to spend some time with him. Every year, we will go back to poly to pay a visit to our dear lecturers. One of the lecturers told me that he saw me recently but actually the last time when we met, was last year cny.
It seems like just yesterday where we just graduated. The first batch of DMSE (Dip in Multimedia Software Engineering). You can say that we were the first batch of "Guinea pigs" because the lecturers were relatively new, the course were new and the industry were too new as well. No one talks about multimedia in the past. Those were the good old days where we struggle how to do C++ and simple 3D animations where all of us know nuts about them. I just can't help but feeling times really flies...
Although he has 3 weeks to spend in sg but seems like his schedule was packed like sardines. Just half day alone, we spend some time shopping his stuffs, pay SP lecturers a visit, went to the tailor with him and having dinner with him and his old friends. Hardly, i will do so many stuffs within half a day... He supposed to have a relax holiday for 3 weeks but there are so many activities he wanted to do...
I have known him for almost 10 years! Wow can't believe that I have such a long friendship with him... He used to be my project leader. I didn't like him in school cause he is quite smart and he appeared to be so stuck up. Then i realised that he is just being shy, not good at expressing himself. Perhaps studying and working overseas had really changed his personality a little.
He's the only guy friend which i keep in touch in poly. We hardly chat but once we chat its like chatting like two old friends. Although his looks or personality maybe changed, but hes will always be my dear friend who i know will stay in touch for long.
It seems like just yesterday where we just graduated. The first batch of DMSE (Dip in Multimedia Software Engineering). You can say that we were the first batch of "Guinea pigs" because the lecturers were relatively new, the course were new and the industry were too new as well. No one talks about multimedia in the past. Those were the good old days where we struggle how to do C++ and simple 3D animations where all of us know nuts about them. I just can't help but feeling times really flies...
Although he has 3 weeks to spend in sg but seems like his schedule was packed like sardines. Just half day alone, we spend some time shopping his stuffs, pay SP lecturers a visit, went to the tailor with him and having dinner with him and his old friends. Hardly, i will do so many stuffs within half a day... He supposed to have a relax holiday for 3 weeks but there are so many activities he wanted to do...
I have known him for almost 10 years! Wow can't believe that I have such a long friendship with him... He used to be my project leader. I didn't like him in school cause he is quite smart and he appeared to be so stuck up. Then i realised that he is just being shy, not good at expressing himself. Perhaps studying and working overseas had really changed his personality a little.
He's the only guy friend which i keep in touch in poly. We hardly chat but once we chat its like chatting like two old friends. Although his looks or personality maybe changed, but hes will always be my dear friend who i know will stay in touch for long.
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